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I just still think establishment of temp custody and visitation order is a must. Heck right now he could be spending all this time with them all the sudden to go in to court and say "hey, look at all this time I spend with my kids, I'm their primary caretaker!"

As much as you think he might not, you need to think he will. D is an ugly ugly business.

And, for the visitations, might I also suggest a neutral pick up anddrop off point, especially the police station. When I did that to my X she finally started to gt the hint I wasn't playing around.

As for the school, yeah, I was highly upset with curriculum night. The way it was geared was you spent 9 minutes in each period of their school day. Well, that's great if you have one kids, or another parent to cover the other kids class. I stopped the principal in the hallway and said that I thought it was great the way they were 'mocking' the kids school day and all, but what if you have 2 kids? He said, "simply send the other parent". And if their isn't one? "Oh, we didn't think about that". Heh, in this day and age of "disposable marriages" they didn't think about that. Sad.

ohhh, 'nother thing, isn't your L hammering you for all the extra consultation?

Mine initially didn't charge for e-mails, then all the sudden charged $30 just to open a email up, let alone research and respond.

And he wonders why I'm in no big hurry to clean up the balance?

I do expect the worse of X at this point, and he usually fulfills my low expectations of him. And yah, the L is charging for all this crap.

WDID, I think you've always had a good picture of X, better and quicker than I did.

My L emailed me back. We are going to meet Wed. am and she said something about an emergency hearing will have to be set after last Tuesday. She told me not to make a scene or anything, so when he tries to get the kids tomorrow I guess I will have to again let him. Hopefully at least this kind of cr** will cue the judge into the kind of person he is, but I know it could go either way. I am going to be shaky tomorrow night when I will have to prob. go through that again.

Kat, I did almost no reply. I didn't address my dropping off the kids tomorrow. I've told him 12 times so he's either doing it on purpose to mess with me (I'm pretty sure) or the alternative is that he's brain-dead so either way why bother? I just told him to put the check in S15's pack as he's been doing the last couple months.

H emailed back last night: you must have inadvertently forgotten to pick a time for the kid
exchange Tuesday night.

And then he won't send the child support/alimony check in S15's backpack anymore, either I meet him tonight and drop off the kids and get the check or he'll mail it sometime this week. I did email him that I'm fine with that, but if he hasn't already mailed it which he says he hasn't I risk eviction if I don't pay my rent tomorrow, and I need groceries for the kids. If he sends me an email saying tough or something nasty re: that, I will be saving for court. I don't think there is any good in him anymore.

You know, this has too many shades of my XW going on at the moment. I'd be very leary of his intent here. Or, as in the case of my X, was when she began to squirm about her 'new' life. Thus when that 'new' life isn't looking so grand, she took it out on me and the kids. Just a thought adn maybe does not apply as the mentality between men and women is different, but it's just eerily similar in ways.

He is a real arse, isn't he?!?




No, he seems to have very few redeemable qualities left, if any.

((((Hugs))))

Perhaps maybe $.05 or $.10 depending on state of redemption?

Don't you have a friend that is a cop that could go with you or something? You never did asnwer if you had checked into that. Maybe take a friend anyway, at least then you would either 1) have an additional witness to his horrible behavior or 2) he may not pull anything while you have someone else with you. Worth a shot anyway. Then you will have the emergency hearing hopefully this week.

kat

Gosh Karen...I've been far behind on your thread and just caught up. WHAT AN EXTREME HORSE'S ARSE HE IS!!!

Had to just get that out.

I totally agree with kat. Get someone to go with you.

I don't want to involve the police--yet, Kat. I'll talk to L tomorrow. She said I shouldn't do anything to make a scene so that might happen if police are involved. Plus scary for the kids I think.

I think he will try to grab them again after our volunteer work at the church, so I'll see who's there today (hopefully a big guy or something) and if so I will ask them to walk with us to the car. As a witness maybe.

Another thing that just popped into my head today although it would be expensive prob., do you think I should ask my L about getting a psych eval on X? I know DC in Separating did that with his stbx, and I think it may have helped him out. I don't know. He seemed normal for so long though, don't know if a psych eval would work. He seems crazy to me though this past year or so. Any opinions on that? I think you guys know our sitch and X better than my L even.

X is threatening to switch the date of giving me custody/alimony check. He had switched it from the original biweekly dates to the 1st and 15th (and of course I had to wait a week or so for the first check when that happened.) Now he's threatening to switch back to the biweekly and make me wait until his next biweekly paycheck (he just got paid Friday). I told him I have plans today and no time to drop off the kids. He emails "I'm aware of your plans for the theatre tonight (how do you think he knows that?) and asked me if S15 is doing the food bank (so he can pick up the kids prob.). I am leaving now to get D9 and don't plan on replying as I'll be doing stuff with her. oh. well.