well, now that I have found where your nest is I will shoot out the door without mentioning how happy it is to hear of your refreshed M. Keep up the solid work. May God continue to bless you and your family.
BTW I will use as my excuse that it took me well over a year to find your DB abode and drop you a hello ..the fact that you seem to so seldom be in it but rather visiting others and providing sage advice. Good one huh.
I'm so excited for you, Pup! And, congrats on the baby grandgirl!
It does seem like she did an aboutface. If you ever talk about it, I'd love to know what sparked her.....I'd sure like that spark.....so, her answer may help me.
Congrats Puppy. It sounds like things are going really well in your relationship. It's odd how the dynamic can change so much. It would be nice if there was a way to bottle up whatever it is right now for when things get more stale. When you do get back together, keep what worked in mind.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
Thanks, PD. I stayed over at her house last nite and again she rocked my world. We talked a little afterward about what she's feeling right now, and she said that "I don't know; I guess I just realized that the 'excitement' I was looking for in my life was right here under my nose."
Wizard of Oz, anyone????
She also set our first MC appt. for 10/16, which I'm really looking forward to.
Only came on once a year, try explaining that to your kids.
Maybe you should get Mrs Puppy some ruby shoes?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Oh man!!! Why didn't somebody tell me what's been going on? Couldn't happen to a "nicer guy", sweetie. She may not know what changed her mind.....but this ole gal knows!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
We had another GREAT nite last nite, at "my place." This time, she surprised ME with a great menu, and we cooked it together, making some wonderful asian bbq pork loin, rice pilaf and salad. For dessert, warm dutch apple pie a la mode with caramel sauce drizzled on top!
And that wasn't even the tastiest part of the evening.
Oh, and get this: she's been really making an effort to keep her house clean! Making the beds, cleaning up daily, getting the boys to pitch in more.
Great to see things going well for you. The trick will be for W to continue to feel that sexual freedom and space for sexual authenticity if you two fully reconcile.
And to others following: never underestimate the power of dismounting from the moral high horse and giving your partner genuine space and freedom to figure out what he/she wants...
Thanks, Sandi.
