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I'm sorry peace he is causing such unrest in your life. His wife sounds like a real winner. My ex's OW also just causes more of his downfall, seems to be the name of the game.

So sad to see them so lost and self-destructive. Seems like ages ago that my H was the man I knew. He's been a stranger for so long now. Beginning to doubt that I ever knew the real him.

Did you ever find out what happened to your xh? Hope something good was able to come out of it, like some kind of awareness of what he's doing to himself.

It is worrying that you and XH are still business partners-- I am concerned that he may take you down with him financially. If you quit, would he have to give you half? Are you hanging in there because you don't want him to lose it?

Did you find out what happened to him? Is he okay?

Thank you DB friends for your encouragement and support

I never found out what really happened to xh in ER
He said he had food poisening..I deont believe him

He continues to come to work slurring and looking kind of sluggish
I told him we cant go onm like this and I want him to leave
or buy him out
this will be a legal matter
I have to get him out of work or he will bring it down
He refused to train new driver I hired to replace him
He is so stupid and obviously shows NO consideration for his children at this point
he told D14, hwe could not see her this week--UNTIL MOM AND ME STRAIGHTEN THINGS OUT
Im so tired of his BS and now for soem reason I am ready to REALLY let go
I may ask him to not visit the kids as well for now until he gets help if ever
He said He doesnt have a problem as his lip quivered and his eyes sunken

Somehow noew for the first time in all of this I feel empoweed
nothing he can do can hurt me anymore
Hes done it all
abandond his kids
M that b**tch
ruined our business
he is a drug addict
I dont love/want him anymore
and I will not spend the rest of my life covering for him at work and with kids
peace

Peace, So long as you remember not to take things too personally. He isn't doing this to you; he is simply self-destructing. He may need to do that before he can grow again, if he can grow again.

Maybe he had a stroke... whatever, do what you have to to protect yourself and your kids. You gave him the benefit of the doubt for a long time.

I know it must be hard for to watch him self-destruct like this.

My xmil called yeasterday
first time in nearly 2.5 years
it was heartfelt
she said she wanted to know if she could have R with my kids
I said ofcourse
then
xh came up and his new wife
xMIL said they saound weird
she never met new bride
but ahe said
I know we have had our struggles me and her
but I wish xh was still M to you
wow that was such a comliment
she sees his destruction
she didnt really know the whole truth about what happened to our M
I told her I dont know if that was the right thing
but it was certainly the truth
xh has lied to his mom about everything
no surprize there
Me and xmil made amends
I have no animoussity toward her
i am happy she called and wants to speak to my kids
peace

since monday after I told xh we can not keep working like this with his drugged state
he has come to work appearing more alert and working better
I dont trust that we will see next week
peace

Peace, it is good that xmil as contacted you regards your kids, at the end of the day they are her grandchildren. I too know how you feel with all this crap, we have been at it for a long time, your sitch is similar to mine although I dont work with my ex, my ex doesnt have a mother she died some 17 years ago, but he as his old aunt who is his mothers sister, she is all he as left to run to , but when myself and aunt made amends I too hear in her conversations the deep hurt ex as caused and she too wishes he had never gone off and done what hes done, she is also saying she wishes he was back with me and hates his new wifey, it is a strange thing this mlc it doesnt just affect the mlcer and his spouse it affects many other people whether it be family or friends,and it is also strange how those family and friends can see that ex is not enjoying his new life, new love, new friends but he is in fact just self destructing and that is all it is, take care peace and hold your head high, I know this is hard and believe you me I am with you on every bit of your journey, xx

Thanks Mandy