Go Bill Go!!! Thanks for all of the uplifting notes you've left me. I'm glad that you have found a ray of light at the end of the tunnel. I hope to be headed that way soon. I'm keeping my chin up but it's taken a few bumps lately.
I'll get there. Thanks again. You're an inspiration to what DBing and God can give us all.
Hope you have a wonderful trip (where are you going?) Keep us posted on your good news and I'll be back to visit you so I can get a good lift. Rah Rah for you!!!
Well BillM, no worries about a warm welcome over here, huh?
I think your W's homework assignment is just great, so read the 5 LL's if you haven't already. What do you think HER love languages are?
And for the gals who won't post at home lest H find out...what's the main fear? That he'll read what you're posting? Just curious. You can reply on my or your thread if you don't want to hijack Bill's thread!
Wanted to share I think you were a possible inspiration to David yesterday. I was telling him about your wife's turn around and last night he told me he had thought about signing up to post.
I asked if it was just because of my stupidity yesterday and he said partial but not all! So wondered if that was a bit of an inspiration to him.
He likes your thread title! He said of course no problem with left over parts if you don't need them. We discussed that in a lighter moment last night.
Good Luck and 5 LL is excellent book! David and I have both read it. He has actually I think read some of it more than once. I haven't as he has it and I don't want to ask for it back right now.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Wow!! Thanks to everyone for the welcome and responses! I'm overwhelmed!
Things are going well in our house; had a joint C session yesterday, seems like W is feeling really overwhelmed with everything, was sick to her stomach yesterday and has said we need to stop talking about things for awhile. A LOT of things to process. She's backed off a little with the physical affetion, kissing and such, but none of this seems like signs that she's changing her mind.
She DID go and arrange for me to have a massage - that's really nice, eh? Funny, I had also gotten her a gift certificate for a spa treatment. Things are good, but a lot of evidence that things are going to be slow going for awhile, which I'm glad for. Takes the pressure off a bit. She's leaving tomorrow for a long weekend at scrapbook camp, which I think will be good for both of us.
Indidentally, W says to tell all my BB friends hello for her!
I've got my own independent C appointment today. Funny how much I look forward to these - I like seeking solutions for progress.
KML - thanks for the welcome! I do have 5LL, had begun to read it a few weeks ago, but I need to really get into it. I've got an "assingment" from the C as well that I need to get through first, then 5LL is next on my list. I've shown it to W as well, and she's shown mild interest in reading it, but she's got a lot to work on as well. Anyway, it's on my priority list.
I live just east of Sacramento in the foothills. My sister is close to your area, in a town called Pine Valley (east of El Cajon).
So - party, eh? You know, I can drink alcohol with my anti-Ds... ah, what the heck. Wine, was it? Opening up a bottle of off-dry Johannesburg Riesling from my favorite Napa winery taking a sip... ahhh.h... gf.gioj jopvjwjju9-3ju - ACK - 91gj]0-o2432402mv,.zzzzZZZZZZZzzzzzzz zzzzzzZZZZZZZzzzzzz
*Snort* - ah, what happened? See, I told you they didn't mix! (wiping drool from my face)
Pam - you know, my W has thought about posting herself. She's felt very alone with the decisions she's been making, and has wanted something like this BB. SHe hasn't done in, but I hope that David does think about it. I love how much you guys are communicating.
Optimist, Karen, Shinybear, Kitti, thanks for all the kind words and great feedback! I've got to get to a meeting now, will chat with y'all later -
Bill!!!! I thought you were waiting until I got the nerve to come over here too before you jumped ship in newcomers !
It's all good though, I think the time has come for me to make the move too. That doesn't mean I am going to desert those in newcomers...just means that I need to keep forward momentum going before things get stagnant
Great to see that W decided to call the house deal off. I bet your C did freak out when she got that call ! Darn...I am so happy for ya Bill that I just don't know how to express it adequately.
Hope to see your continued progress reach it's ultimate fruition Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
I hope your wife and David both decide to start posting! That would be great.
It seems something is in the water. Your W decides to cancel house deal and stay together to work on things, Tal's H is moving home. T24's h I think just came home and I saw another post just today about a couple getting back together.
Wonder if I could find David some of that water somewhere!!!
Take care and best wishes!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Kent, thanks for the comments - what do I attribute? I guess all the 180s. My W thought that change was going to be impossible, and I proved to her that it wasn't. Plus, according to her, I've been able to show unconditional love. And, in the end, my W had her own issues to work out, and her going through the steps that she did I think allowed her to process a lot of things - so I found that the less resisitance I put up the better.
Zoo - yeah, you've got to come join me over here! Our C expressed happiness for us - I think she's gotten used to how nuts we are now. So, upward and onward.
Pam - it's just a matter of time!! I don't think my W is going to post, actually, but it would be great to see David here. We all know how much it helps to sort out our thougts and feelings -
More of the same today - had a C session, W still giving great affection in limited amounts. Man, she turned me on tonight with kissing, but just a little kissing. We're proceeding at a slow pace - in a different situation I'd think she was teasing me, but I'm happy to help her figure out the boundary issues and let her be comfortable with what she wants to do. I think we're both going to benefit from the space over the weekend, she's leaving for scrapbook camp tomorrow. Funny how the need for space doesn't seem like such a big thing now.
Well, it's getting late y'all - type at you soon. - Bill
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