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Boundaries come a bit later with an MLC.

For example:

You - I can't live in an open marriage.
Wife - Cool!

I'm sorry for not spending alot of time around here....instead i've been trying really hard to GAL and spending my time keeping a PMA and enjoying my kids.

My wife on the other hand I find has been spending her time figuring out ways to contact her 31 y.o. EA friend(did someone say Mrs. Robinson?) on Facebook and other modes of communication without being seen or without him being on her friends list. She keeps on telling me that she had feelings for him at one time but is over all of that now. Yet I find out that she continues to sneak around and have communication with him.

So my question is...boundries? What the heck are boundries? What purpose do they serve? When and why do you want to set them?

Here is what I have said in the past. I have asked her what she wants? If she wants him why doesn't she just go to him. I have said that I have to much respect for myself for her to continue to lie to me all of the time. She claims she is done, but I repeatedly find that not to be the truth.

So do I confront her again? Ask her to move out? Ask her what it is like to sit next to me in church when she knows that she is living a lie? Or do I just ignore and chalk it up to just one of the phases I know she has to process through herself?

As always appreciate any thoughts, comments or suggestions