Your H's job sounds like a life drainer!! No wonder he's snarky most of the time. I think he needs a good vacation! How was he after the trip with the whitewater rafting and stuff?
He enjoys a vacation. You've given me an idea. I'm going to encourage one over Thanksgiving. Maybe time on the beach in Marco. He likes that, and it's low key. Nothing much scheduled.
Good idea, Sam.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
School was the best - five new special ed. three year olds - try to make a line - it's like herding cats! Ahhhh - feels like home to me! Besides the fact that I have no changing table, so the custodian put a gym mat on a wooden table and covered it w/art paper -- yes, fans -- ART PAPER -- everything was swell. Stace is back in the saddle, again.
Thanks for your prayer for Joey - pray for a peaceful and painless passing, and please, pray for his parents. There is nothing else to pray for at this point.
I plan on trying on some wide legged trousers this weekend, we'll see if I look ridiculous or sublime - or somewhere in between.
You sound great - you're turning into my hero -- keep it up!
I'll check in tomorrow - keep rolling with the punches.
Funny, the less I engage H, the more he engages me. I know... not rocket science...
The fog is lifting ever so slowly.
He just called. Wants status of all of this home improvement stuff going on. Do the boys like their room changes? When is new carpet coming? BlahBlahBlah...
And, a year ago, in a pre-DB argument, he spewed hatred towards anything he ever enjoyed before... "How can I even enjoy my wine collection anymore? I'm NOT finishing the cellar. Waste of time, etc...."
Guess who is interested, NOW, in clearing out the junk in the wine cellar and setting up the tasting table we got him for x-mas ('07), and the wine press he bought right before that....
I'm feeling like I could have written Michelle's chapter on MLC for her, and saved her some time. Just piece together my journal entries.
This afternoon was very sad. I was feeling sorry for myself. Here I am losing weight, firming up, dressing awesome, have a great new hairstyle, being Smiley Suzie, etc..., and THIS much effort yields so LITTLE of a movement? Good Lord! Well, then I read Passionate Marriage for about two hours. Wow. It's covered in tears. It was a rough read. I keep thinking this is mainly about him, but I'm at least half-way responsible for the path that got us here. Understanding is interesting. So, I cried. I read. I cried some more. I found peace. This is the second time I've had a "reading session" with that book, and it's happened both times.
How, how about some passion? THANKUVERYMUCH!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
It seems from what you sent me that the book is more for both parties to read. Is it really helpful for just one? I need more time to go back and read some of your posts but YES I can see allot of me in you also. Well Except I didn't hold on to my wife until the police arrived....Do not get me wrong. I did some really stupid stuff myself in the beginning. ALL of the stuff they say not to do. My wife was having an affair and I WAS ASKING HER FOR ANOTHER CHANCE.. What? Seems we both have grown.....it's just that I am growing tired also. YES things are 100 percent better than they were but then again it’s like before all I had was bread to eat… now I have bread AND water…… Be back soon
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
After much enquiring, I think I've discovered that my S14 is playing forward on the soccer team. My nomination for mother of the year is now being accepted!
Getting packed -- it's gonna be close getting to O'Hare in the holiday Friday rush hour -- but I'm optimistic.
Remember, the changes you're making are for you - although we all do our fair share of crying. I think you're doing a great job - good PMA, exercising, time w/sons. Speaking of sons, how's your D?
Have a great weekend, drink a few skinny b!tch margarita's for me!
It really seems like it's going the right way for you, even if it's slow as molasses! Just thinking about your H's MLC and how men's MLC lasts 2-3 years and women's 3-5 years makes me think it might be (at least) another year before W comes out of hers (because that's what I believe she's in). I'm not sure how much longer I can hold on....
