I am pretty balanced right now. I just want more physical contact as I have been saying for awhile. Last Tuesday I brought this up in MC. Asked my W where she sees us in 3 to 6 months, if she was still attacted to me both physically and sexually.
She did not answer it directly but with some questions by the C she did admit that there are times she feels attacted to me but does not know how to act on it. She brought up something that happened a couple of weeks earlier. We were playing croquet with her family and something happened and I gave her a little hug and kiss on the head. She said she thought about going more with it but did not.
I thought it was interesting because I had completely forgot about it but for some reason it stuck with her. The MC asked her to not think about it next time and just go with it when something like that happens. Its little baby steps that we need to take she said. She also told me not to try and get more than my W is willing to give.
I told her I would try but understand that I want more out if this R than we have right now. But I know that she is not ready and will not push anything or force her to do anything she does not want to do. I told her about what happened the other morning and I appologized to my W for handeling it the wrong way and also told her how I should of handeled it. But that she needs to know that I feel love different than her and mine is the physical side of love.
My W said that she knows this and will try and work on it and that she understand my POV.
As for my W and not wanting to face things head on that is her. She is fine till things come to a head or she thinks someone is upset with her and she either shuts down as she does with me or walks away as she did on Saturday. Don't think I ever mentioned that before.
I'm loving this weather, hard to believe it's July....
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She did not answer it directly but with some questions by the C she did admit that there are times she feels attacted to me but does not know how to act on it.
Is this because she feels that any physical contact she gives you will result in ML? Bloody shame because you've shown her that you will be patient. It's hard to take a first step in any situation, I understand. And even harder to take the first step if you realize that step will result in more steps and it's those steps you're not sure of.
Sounds like until she's ready to ML, she won't do the physical stuff. IMHO.
You're doing well, Tim. Hope things continue to go well for you.
