I posted that we used to hang in Lake Geneva. We had a lake house on Delavan for about six years, and frequented every possible restaurant non-stop, as I boycotted cooking when I was there.
A few weeks ago, we (the fam) went on a white water rafting trip in Northern WI, almost to MI, and on the way home, stopped at Cafe Calamari in Williams Bay.
I think that's what you were remembering.
How am I?
Today? Exhausted! After a really restless night of sleep, sadness... I have had about three episodes of complete emotional turmoil since I started with this DB approach last November. This was one. (Not sure but it might coincide w/4+ glasses of Pinot consumed...!)
H works out of town all week, leaves on Monday afternoons, comes home Wednesdays for time w/the fam, homecooked meal (ha!), and a little rest. Then isn't back again until late Friday night. He owns a trucking company, and he goes to his customers' hubs and makes sure everyone is loaded correctly, and dispatches all of his drivers from there. He's a busy boy.
In the meantime, it's me with the busier boys, and D18 has just moved out. They both play club soccer, and S12 is playing football for their school now, as well. So, I drive and drive and drive... from 3pm on...
During the day, I sell! God forbid anyone needs anything after 3pm though! You might mess with "the athletes"!
I have really great friends. I have two BFF's, the skinny blonde one w/your birthday, and the ex-next door neighbor. They are the best, and DISHES, too! They both know bits and pieces of my heartache, but nowhere near what anyone here does. It's hard to verbalize. Ya know?
H called today, late am, telling me that skinny, blonde BFF had just called him, and one of D18's best boy friends is leaving for college on Thursday, and wants us three to plan his going away party. (Kind of last minute, huh? And, who has a going away party? Didn't we just drain a keg at your grad party? Seriously!) BFF couldn't get ahold of me, so called H to get his input. He was so tickled to be requested. Not sure why? Guess he loves to be included when he's so far from home!) So, we're taking the D18's best boy (toy) out for an awesome sushi lunch tomorrow. I'll be sad to see him go. (I hate to see you leave, but I love to watch you go! LOL) He's D18's boyfriends, BFF. And, he's a looker!
H needs a serious whack upside the head. If he didn't have such an unconventional family situation, I'd probably not be as forgiving. I know he loves me. I know he needs me. I feel it. I feel like he's dug himself into this hole, and doesn't know how to re-emerge, and when he accidentally does, he starts to see some light again.
Odd.
But, we've come a LONG way, in the past 18 or so months.
Confidence will come as these 15 lbs come off. I don't feel like myself. I have no personal courage. I've always been a DISH, too! Instead I feel a bit like a bowl!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
They both know bits and pieces of my heartache, but nowhere near what anyone here does. It's hard to verbalize. Ya know?
Hard to verbalize, yes, I know.
And I know all about an H on the road.
And I also know that someone can love you -- but that "love" isn't enough. Everyone is NOT capable of love in the way it was meant to be -- especially in a marriage. It sounds like your H might be handicapped in some ways by his family.
So going to bed -two vodka gimlets w/my pastor - female - one of my BFF's.
I want to have lunch - so fill me in.
And I want to SPY - so fill me in.
I always wanted to spy, until I was informed, that I stand out too much, per my beauty and good fashion. I let that dream die -- but hey, new career path on the horizon!!
Sleep well, I'm praying for you, and I put you and your family on the prayer list at church.
Great morning, looks like the heat and humidity have moved on - thank goodness!
More classroom unpacking today - aaarrgghh - so much work for absolutely no pay. Oh well, also need to check out the building to decide which door I'll tell the bus company to use for drop off/pick up.
Need to find teacher's lounge, library, etc. So far I know where the office, gym, my room and the Pepsi machine is -- need to check out everything else.
H got in this am, just in time to shower, and take them with me (tradition). They go to a Lutheran School - two campuses... S12 is now in 7th grade, which is at the high school (Jr High area). And, S9 is in 4th grade, at the elementary.
D18 graduated from the high school last year, just in time to NOT be of assistance in taking S12 to the high school! So, I get to shuttle shuttle shuttle my rear off mornings and afternoons. Actually, just remembered S12 has football after school, so that will lesson the chaos!
Emails into my customers to see their availability on Tuesday or Wednesday of next week. I can be out there by 9:45, and be ready for lunch by 11:30 or so. Now, we just need them to be in and free in MY timeframe! Ha!
Interviewing Field Service/Automation Engineers today, and taking D18's best boy friend to lunch (leaving for SIU tomorrow). The, of course, football practice pick-up, soccer training, etc... BlahBlahBlah!
The cleaning ladies come today, though! Yea! Since I've been so busy my house looks like hel!! Had to spend an hour and a half picking up so they could clean! I'm pretty anal, too, so this is a BAD 180 for me!
I know your D19 is in school. Is your D17 a Senior? Does she have her homecoming date/dress yet? LOL I remember D18 having that stuff almost secured by week 2 of the school year. Hilarious. Important stuff to her... Maybe that's why she had to stay home two semesters, instead of going away. No time to study when you go to THREE PROMS!
And, how about your boys? My boys are sweethearts. S12 is just starting to become an eye roller, but his core is just good and sweet. S9 is a sarcastic, witty little dude, but is SO good to his Mommy!!
Have a good day at your school! I truly admire teachers. Lowest paid, most important job ever created. You truly do it out of love!
PS - Thanks for the prayers! You must be Lutheran, too, if your Pastor is female and drinks Vodka!
Last edited by mindblank; 08/19/0901:41 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
FG - Hahaha I'm 5'7, so the wedges make me just a step above the rest!
6 pairs! Hhahahahah LOL Did you order any of those from VS that I showed you?
I like your comment about staying out of the pit. I think I tripped into it the other night, but luckily regained my footing fairly quickly. I said "F*ck" about 200 times, and felt better. Isn't that nice?
How are your kids doing??? Do they follow an academic calendar like ours? I remember when we were in London two summers ago (July), the local kids all had varying schedules if you asked them. BTW, I was especially fond of the pubs! It was our first time overseas. We went to Paris, too. H and I took D18 to see Moulin Rouge, and she fell in love w/champagne. Fell off the curb on the way back to the hotel (laughed so hard I almost pee'd! that's what she gets for being such a pain to her MOM!), came barreling into the hotel room, waking brothers, and my parents. Two glasses were enough!
Fun trip. We went to see our extended family in Sweden for a week afterwards. God! They look and act just like me! One of them even works in my industry. H laughed every time he met someone new, calling them my twins!
Be good. I have been following along on your thread. You're handling your H with love, honor and grace, while keeping yourself. I'm so proud of you, but so pissed off at your H!!!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
My 17 year old is a senior. No dress yet - don't know that she'll even go. She's VERY focused on her studies - 3.9 GPA. She's already earned 15 college credits, taking AP classes. By the time she graduates, she'll have a year of college credits completed. And they don't cost ME anything!! She had a boyfriend her sophomore year, and they broke up because she wouldn't have sex w/him. Since then, she hasn't dated much - just does thing w/her big group of friends. She's class VP, student council, and doing Freshman Transisition Coaching. Last year she went to Homecoming in a group - some had dates, some didn't. She's in public school.
Sons go to Christian Life - that is an Assembly of God school. S14 has special needs due to epilepsy (brain damage, you know) - he also struggles socially, is having a hard time "fitting in". Just struggling right now. In addition, both the boys are taking their Uncle's illness and impending death very hard.
S12 is the BOMB!! He turns 13 next month and I keep tellling him we're skipping it, because I don't want him going to the "dark side" of teenagerdom. He's a great student, plays piano, swims, plays in the handbell choir at church.
I can't complain too much -- D17 has never been grounded. She's a little grumpy personality wise -- one of her teachers calls her "Eyeore"!!!! But w/four adolescents, there isn't as much drama as you'd think. D19 has her act together -- loves college, hated high school - so didn't feel that turning in her assignments was worth her time!
Lutheran, huh? Not WELS or Missouri Synod? I'm Methodist - and all three of my pastors are women, and they all drink. Although Linda only drinks gin, I was the one w/the gimlets last night.
Okay, back to the unpacking of my 183 boxes.
Let me know about lunch. I'd go to Milwaukee, too.
