Just a little comment about him not being where he said he had been when he got home. I should have kept my mouth shut. I said it lightly but it certainly wasn't taken that way.
Just a little comment about him not being where he said he had been when he got home. I should have kept my mouth shut. I said it lightly but it certainly wasn't taken that way.
Yea, not so good....Gave him a button to push huh ?
Those comments, no matter how tiny, will send you both spiraling everytime...
You are braver than I am. I am not at the place yet where I can ask H where he's been. I know the Alien would jump on me big time!
It sounds like you and the kids are doing good. Having them around must be a big help in taking your mind off H once in a while. I have my dogs!
I'm at that fed up place myself. It's like who do they think they are, don't they realize what they already have. I think a too bad their loss attitude is setting in with us. I don't want it to though. I've been standing too long to get a hottie attitude now!
Watching the Inspirational channel, and listening to the Christian radio station helps me to refocus.
Mach - yeah, it was dumb of me and probably not so good that I followed it up with a couple of other choice comments about his selfishness, etc. in response to some stuff he said. Oh, well. It will blow over I supppose though it may have set me back a couple of months.:) I do think his reaction was so strong not necessarily because of what I said but other stuff going on with him regarding work, etc., but who really knows. Even with his crazy I can read him better than he thinks I can.
MJ - the thing is I haven't really been asking where he goes at all and he has been volunteering more lately. Not that I believe it is the whole truth and nothing but the truth but at least it is something. He even has started calling to check in on occasion, something that hasn't happened for a long time. I may not get any volunteered info or calls for some time now, thanks to my big mouth.
The kids have been my salvation this summer, being able to focus on them. I will definitely miss them when school starts in a few days!
I am not sure, maybe the fed up place is not so bad if it will give us the strength we need for the situation. I am finally at the point of feeling the need/strength to set some boundaries but still praying on how to handle that.
I just remembered something that hopefully will help me refocus through my fed-upedness. A few weeks ago my little D was asking me some questions about family, etc., trying to sort out how it works. One thing she asked me was if you got to choose who you married. I said yes. And then she asked me if I chose Daddy. I said yes, I chose Daddy.
Yes, I am trying to remember to shut up, shut up, shut up!:)
Surprisingly, after leaving obviously in a very bad mood yesterday a.m. for work, by the time we all got in last night he seemed to be in a decent mood, played with the kids, was fine with me, etc. I steered clear, though, and kept to myself.
