You can hijack this thread anytime you wish. I don't mind a bit. I actually don't like the whole "hijack" thing anyway.
You're more than welcome to say whatever you need or want to say here.
Well,
Today did not go well at all. I can't really get into it other than to say the piper ain't giving an inch at all right now.
This is not good, no.... in fact it looks pretty bad right now, but there is no way out of this sh*t other than to keep pressing forward. The most recent bad news will now be hanging over my head until at least Sept. 25th. In that time I'll be praying and doing whatever possible to try to help matters, but really, there isn't much I can do.
Now back to the whole XW thing. She called again today, she was nice but strictly business. We had to discuss more about school. That's about it really.
Financially and in regards to the house my ship is sinking faster than I can bail the water out. All I can do is keep trying, right now it's just not enough. Whatever happens...... happens.
T--hugs. The financial aspect of this crud really blows. But can you tell me what's going on w/ the house so maybe I can offer a few suggestions (remember, my field...)? You can do it by EM if you want.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
just wanted to share a thought for the men, and Trapt, they all seem to come to your thread LOL.
You all are really special men. So many would just walk away and not even bother to try. Yes I'm sure you all, just like the rest of us, have your own parts to play in the demise of M, but that being said...
It is really nice to know that there are men out there who care enough to try to make a M work.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
She will be coming over tonight to get the kids. I'm not really looking forward to it.
It's time for me to back way away from this situation.
I know it all has to start with a friendship. I'm just not comfortable nor do I desire to have a friendship with her as long as she is seeing someone. It's just not going to happen.
That is your decision to make but can I ask you something, as I too have struggled with this in my own way.
When you met her, or any woman for that matter that you might want to get to know, were you really concerned if there was another person? No I'm not talking about a husband or serious other person, but someone who seems casual as she seems to say this OM is? Would you rule out a friendship with any woman who was "dating" or is this something only for W?
Not condemning because to be honest, I don't want to be friends with H if he has someone either, but....
Because if you really are starting over, this might be a bit much in the beginning...Just a thought
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"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
I can't trust anything she says. She says it's casual, however from what I see it doesn't look that way.
No, I wouldn't rule out starting a friendship with someone new who was "dating." It's a little different, sort of apples to oranges I guess. My guard wouldn't be way up with someone else. With my X it has to be. The trust has just been destroyed.
Three days ago she was still trying to say that this is something new with om, that they just started seeing each other a couple of months ago. I know for a fact she has been seeing him for a year now.(while we were still married.)
I just can't trust her. Not without seeing things change. If he is still in the picture, I see this as just more of the same ole same ole.
