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I find if I just do the exercise and positive stuff for myself, that the funk goes away. And it'll help you sleep and all that. Just do the stuff you do that you do when you're having good PMA and then good PMA follows...Karen

Good day.

Went to Target and got a 6.5" basketball hoop (we live in a cul-du-sac). One of my boys was estatic, the other wanted nothing to do with it - actually the reason I wanted to do this was that he's had some trouble joining in with the other kids, so thought this would be good for his confidence, etc. He eventually got into it. So we had a great day shooting hoops. Exercise (well, light exercise maybe), spending time with the boys, outdoors, lots of fun. Called W from the store, asking her opinion, she seemed happy to hear from me. She gets back into town tomorrow.

Bought a new football too... we'll have some fun with that...

Think I'm evening out a bit. Mornings are still tough.

One of my boys has been sneeking into bed with me regulary now - he's had insomnia lately. I've always been close to my boys, but closer these past few weeks. One of the said to W recently that she's never here. Hm. Not completely true, but they've noticed -

Filled out most of the kids' school paperwork today - something W usually does.

Grilled burgers for dinner - kids loved it. Had pizza yesterday. Dinner with Dad.

Just kind of journaling I guess.

Wow - just discovered that she's de-friended me on FB. Acutally looks like I'm blocked - can't find her in a search.
No longer says I'm married to her either. I guess this shouldn't surprise me, but kind of pisses me off...

I suppose I should not mention this to her... let it go...

She just called, got in at the airport and she's driving home. Going to put a pizza in the oven...

I think you're right. I think the whole FB thing is kind of silly. I mean you're still her H, no matter what stuff she pulls on FB. I often thought in the early part of this, heck the middle too, that the WAS really tries to piss you off, start arguments, etc. Maybe it makes it easier to deal with their guilt if you're fighting or something. I wouldn't bring it up at all.

Yep. Thanks Karen

Karen,
I couldn't agree with you more regarding the argumentative nature of a WAS. Their goal it seems is to find justification for their actions and if that means throwing you under the bus so be it. At the same time I wonder if these test are good as they show some sign that our S is noticing our changes. Maybe it depends were we are in the process.

BillM, Perfect attitude. Act as if you didn't even go out and look at her silly little face book. Expect more of the same from this point. She will search for every little kink in your armor using all the tools in her arsenal.

Yarg.

Well, here's the evening so far.

I put a pizza together (grocery store + added ham & pinapple), made a salad, cut up watermelon. W got home, and we ate and all.

Over the weekend, I had done laundry and folded it, went to the grocery store, etc. W said again, you don't have to do so much... Then she said, we should play a game after dinner, etc.

The everything changed. She was in pain, I guess pulled a muscle or something related to the surgery. She started going through the kids' school paperwork, and got so crabby that the kids reacted, which made her even in a worse mood. At some point, she looked at me and said, "I need to move out." OK. I kept the kids busy cleaning up toys, etc.

Well, eventually everthing was normal again, and we played a game.

Got the kids in the shower, and she wants to talk. She asked me how I saw this apartment thing happening.

I said, I don't know, this is your thing.

She asked if I'd do a rotation, where we trade off apartment vs. house every week. I said, no, I don't want to do that.

She mentioned the expense. I said, well, yeah, it's going to be expensive.

So, she said she's trying to figure out the options - move out, say as we are for awhile, or come back, I guess meaning to the master bedroom, which she said she won't do. She said she doesn't see a lot of options, but she guesses she could stay for awhile... or something to that effect.

OK, so then she says she's worried about HER reaction - getting snappy, and spewing that all over us. I asked her why she's so angry, and she said, I don't know.

She said, I don't know how to be around you now.

I said, "I'm easy." She looked at me and said, "I know, I know. I really like you, I like being around you. I don't want to make you think I don't like you."

Then she mentioned all the things I'd been doing.
I said, well, I needed clean underwear. The kids needed food for their lunches. These things needed to be done, it doesn't have anything to do with you.

She said she wants to keep doing pizza/game nights with all of us, for family time.

Maybe a couple of other comments, then I said, anything else? Her: No.

Gotta go

OK back - so, I got the kids in bed (W was taking a bath).
So, started playing my guitar, singing a song I figured out the other day. W was out by then, she says, "sounds good!" I asked if she wanted to hear something else I'd worked on, "not right now."

Eventually, she comes and shuts my door so she can watch TV - I look up and she does a little kiss at me as she shuts the door.

Now - she does these things every so often - calls me "hon" when she leaves a message, then catches herself.

Is this just habit?? Or what?

Oh I see. She took a vicodin. She was all loopy. I wandered into the other room, and she says, "I like you" and gave me a hug.

This situation makes little sense to me.

Trade off house/apartment? ROFLMFAO!

Calling you hon,IMO, partly habit, partly keeping you on the hook.