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Weekend update:
Saturday was a big family party at our house. The day went fine. We worked together to get everything ready, during the party everything ran smoothly, and we cleaned up afterwards. Sunday after Mass we went to my parents house to celebrate my grandmother's 94th birthday. Again, not a bad day, we got along fine. One thing about all this, we never fight. My grandmother is losing her memory, so she asks questions like how old am I? Where do I live? etc. Sunday she was asking us if she had children and grandchildren, which was a little sad. We went around the room reminding her who we all are. When we got to W, she said "You remember me, I am Orich's wife." It was weird hearing her say that, but pleasant.
So, we go home, played with the boys for a while, and just before we put them to bed, she tells me she is going to another movie meeting after the boys are in bed. She had told me she didn't think she was going to be involved in this anymore.
We put the kids to bed, and my cell phone rang. I was in the bedroom, and she calls out that my phone is ringing. The name showed up on the screen, and she saw it. Two things happened. FIrst of all, she said "why is there a picture of a woman on the phone?" My wallpaper had always been a picture of her. Now it is a picture of Kate Winslet (who, BTW, is dreamy!) and then she said, "Why is the deacon from our church calling you?". The deacon found me crying in church some months ago, and when I told him what was going on, he began to get involved with me. I didn't want her to know, because he is a friend of both of us. He called because he knew that she usually went out on Sunday nights, he just called a little too early. So, now she knows that he knows. She didn't say anything after I told her that.
And then, she left for her movie meeting, and I watched Ice Road Truckers, and went to bed.
That was my weekend, I reflected a bit on the current state of things, and realize that I need to do some more GALing, and maybe a few more 180's.
Further bulletins as events warrant.

she's a real dish.

THAT'S a funny one...:)

I wouldn't even respond to this other than to say it is Kate Winslet. Leave it at that.



Exactly what did you tell her? Why didn't you just say that you were expecting the call and not give her any more info? She would still figure it out, but you don't have to come completely clean on everything you do, think, or say to someone else.



Umm, what is a movie meeting?

Quite a shot in the arm



I'm with The Wifey in this? What the heck is a Movie Meeting? Am I missing something or reading to much into this?

Have a good 'en Orich

Mac

I have posted earlier about this job opportunity W is interested in. A little while ago, a childhood friend of W had written a movie script, and the lead singer of the band Queensryche became interested in it. It has since been picked up and funded and will begin shooting shortly. The friend asked W if she wanted to do administrative work for the newly founded production company. It will pay more than she is making at her current job. So, every Sunday night the production team meets to discuss production, and she is in on the meetings in case she decides to take the job, which would start once the shooting begins. She has gone back and forth about this job, and apparently is currently interested again.
I didn't say anything about the wallpaper on my phone, and the only reason I told her that the deacon knows what's going on is that she actually asked me if he knows about us, and is that why he's calling. I decided not to lie to her and said yes, he knows, and has been calling every couple of weeks to see if we are doing better or not.

Orich - thanks for the clear up on the movie thing

Isn't it funny the the most innocuous phrase can pick up the worse connotations?

Not lying - good stance to take.

Mac

It makes sense then. I thought you just offered that info to her, but you were asking a direct question. Funny, they want to go through this without us telling anyone and save face. But there isn't a chance of people not knowing.

Thanks for explaining the movie meeting.

Yeah, I figured at this point, it is good to be as truthful as possible. This way she can never say that I lied to her. I don't have to tell her everything I am doing or thinking, but when asked right out, I don't want to lie.
More journaling:
Tuesday night she sees her IC. I don't know what they are talking about now, last time we spoke about her IC, she was helping W to move on from me. Since we spoke then, she has expressed doubt in breaking up the family, and possibly still loving me. So, I get a little nervous when she has these sessions.
My next IC is this coming Thursday. I am looking forward to hearing my C's take on all that has transpired over the past 3 weeks.
Finally, next Thursday I see my spiritual director. One of the requirements of becoming a deacon was seeing a spiritual director once a month. They are there to help you continue to discern your calling to ordained ministry, guide your prayer life, and help you examine your relationship with God. With all that is going on with me at this point, even though I am no longer in formation, I continue to see Sister in order to hash out where God is in my life right now, and my relationship with Him at this point. I always look forward to seeing her.