Thanks, wifey. At age 42, barring other health problems, you H's problem may well just be low Testosterone production/levels. This also affects the heart muscle, energy, mood and many other things. Easy fix, though.
The Gardener Blended Family Annual Seashore Vacation is in one week. Son One: not coming this year. Son Two: Couple of days. Preg D & her S/O: Not coming this year. Favorite Nephew: Not coming this year. Wife: Last two days (rented her own place, though). Me, Son Three, DIL & GS in huge 5 bedroom house. Oh, well. I'm thinking of leaving before my wife gets there. Wife said she thought our S&D wouldn't affect great blended family we built. Wrong. Everyone's reeling.
Wife said while we're there (before she arrives) she wants to come to house and get the rest of her stuff out of our bedroom and start processing her attic detritus. I've already removed every last trace of her and her belongings out of bedroom and her BR closet. In the basement.
Not comfortable with her here in empty house while I'm 200 miles away. Snooping. I've thought of changing the locks. Not sure.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I do know that there have been people here that are able to lay out boundaries with their WA's and that PA's would be considered an insult. Still, not all WA's will hold to that. Seems many feel entitled to "happiness" regardless of who gets punched in the gut.
After all that's transpired in the last nine months, the prospect of insulting me is certainly not much of a deterrent in her eyes, I'm sure.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Thanks, wifey. At age 42, barring other health problems, you H's problem may well just be low Testosterone production/levels. This also affects the heart muscle, energy, mood and many other things. Easy fix, though.
I am well aware of low testosterone. The nurse practitioner put him on a testosterone patch for 2 weeks, and then tested his levels. Duh, they came back normal. (That is the purpose of the patch, right?) He has never had a repeat test.
At one point the dr. found he had high protein levels in his urine, indicating kidney function problems. He was tested three times and on the third test it was in acceptable levels.
He has a lump in his groin which is probably just a fatty tumor. (He has many of these.) Not an issue really, except where its located. Probably pressing on veins/valves or nerves. He never had it checked by the doc.
Doctor told him lots of men have this problem. Totally deflated any motivation to find the reason. Doc did recommend he have an ultasound, but he hasn't.
Hasn't been back since. Even lied to me once and said he'd been back and the doc told him to take garlic, the lump was no problem, and at some point he should have an ultrasound. Had my own appointment after and told the doc I was happy to hear he'd been back to see him. Doc said he was sorry, but hadn't seen H in 6-9 months. (and that was in May)
I only said that whether he ever wanted to ML to me again or not, he should have it checked further. It would be really sad if he finally went and they told him if he'd come in sooner they may have been able to help him, but he was out of luck because of how long he waited. That was the last I said on the subject.
So yeah, BOB and I are well-acquainted.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
The nurse practitioner put him on a testosterone patch for 2 weeks, and then tested his levels. Duh, they came back normal. (That is the purpose of the patch, right?) He has never had a repeat test.
The patch isn't that effective (bio-identical cream is- and it's cheap). Secondly, "normal" means normal for one's "reference range" (age group) and if I'm in an age group in which low T is rampant, why is that "normal" something most dr.s aim for. I did research and then found a Dr. who targets "optimum levels". FYI in case your H ever gets motivated to pursue it.
Originally Posted By: The Wifey
So yeah, BOB and I are well-acquainted.
I hear ya, but as we all know, BOB is best enjoyed when he's part of a threesome!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
A I caught up on last couple of days of some threads, I came across a series of posts discussing confronting spouse with proof of PA. Could anybody tell me whose thread that was or have any advice?
Gucci, Puppy. Advice on sitch change?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
