I've thought a bit about your sitch in the past couple weeks, and the words you are using....
It feels to me that you have given your W too much power over your emotions. I'm feeling codependency. Remember that you are a complete person with out her! I think that two together don't complete each other the was the romanticists write it, I think they completment each other so that together they can be greater than two individuals. But that does not mean that apart you are less of an individual, if that makes sense. Sure, you can do things as a team that you can't do alone, but that doesn't mean you are not complete by yourself.
I've thought a bit about your sitch in the past couple weeks, and the words you are using....
It feels to me that you have given your W too much power over your emotions. I'm feeling codependency. Remember that you are a complete person with out her! I think that two together don't complete each other the was the romanticists write it, I think they completment each other so that together they can be greater than two individuals. But that does not mean that apart you are less of an individual, if that makes sense. Sure, you can do things as a team that you can't do alone, but that doesn't mean you are not complete by yourself.
Jeff,
Thanks for your offering of support. It does not really come as much surprise to hear you say that. I am a pretty self-aware person. It however does not serve me in any way in terms of instantly "snapping out of it". Everything has it's cycle ..I suppose.
Has she actually filed anything or is she just telling you all these things?
Oh yeah stuck ...you musta not been following things over hear about 14 months ago. That silly earthly D stuff already took place.
Put it this way ..I am a guy who was nearly erased from the earth on March 31, 1992 in a mid-air collision of two light airplanes. And I was in no way dissuaded from continuing on with making that my livelihood to this day. So if you think for an instant that silly lawyers dribble on a paper is going to drive me away from my covenant bond of matrimony ....naaaahh, not on your life.
My love for my darling deepens by the day.
And her's for me has not faded as is evidenced by what has transpired over the last year since said mentioned attempts by silly lawyers guided by the master deceiver.
Victory will be my Father's for me in the long run.
In the short run ...pain and heartache for me and my darling.
Have you even tried to detach before? I don't think you did. You don't detach because you are forced to, you detach because you want to.
Do you still want your marriage?
I have tried and suceeded at detachment b4 and it was not forced per se. I did it as a means to survive the death spiral that ocurred a year ago. It was a revealing breakthrough. I remember it well as anyone does who finally experiences that. I have learned a bunch from all of this chaos and most of that may still be ahead of me. There for sure has been some erosion to that detachment. But as soon as I manage to find the horse maybe it will be simultaneous to when I wil be prepared to mount it.
it is not a Q for me and never has been ..not sure how much you have read?
Not only do I WANT a R with my darling. I already have one ..which as of about 10 days was on a mending trend ..then the bottom dropped out and the fog is reinstated. So often the caase in piecing. 3 fwd ..10 back.
Me and my darling will get there. We will both be on that horse in full gallop .
