I see you registered in January of this year. What's the story? Grumpiness, not in love w/you anymore, blahblahblah (yet you're all still int he same home?).
If you truly asked her how you communicated here, I thought it was pretty polite, actually! Sheesh! I mostly asked the question, because I know how it would come from me if I had to ask it! Lots more colorful!
I think you should at least try to speak to the guy. See if he can hold eye contact. See if he can carry on a convo w/you. And, do it in front of her. See if she squirms. (Not sure how good of an actor you are...)
My other questions... Why would you think it would be a pretty lousy physical affair? Do you two do anything together on your own anymore? How are your kids (I know daughter is pissed at the mom) doing w/her overall? Are they more joyful if she's not around? Do they act normally no matter who they're with (you, her, you and her)?
I have an idea that worked for me/us. It got us out of the miserable stage, and into an enjoyable friendly state. We're inching past that now, but at a snails pace, but this approach did work. In fact, it almost reminds me of that article someone posted on here from NY Times (a few days ago). Need to know her demeanor/beef w/you first...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
We're involved with WTF style Tae Kwon Do. I'm at an adult sparring class. Usually, I am only matched against other adult black belts, however, this night we have a low show of participants. So I matched against so-n-so. I am pulled aside by the master and told to show self-control do not destroy him. I ask why and he's says "because I would kill him if I were you." hmmmmm... I am that blind or has the wool been pulled over my eyes. wow. not sure what is actually going on or who to approach with this. crap. SM
she disappeared for a couple hours. wasnt where she said she was going. I asked her "whats going on I don't feel comfortable with what I am hearing and what you are telling me" and she freaked out with accusations and excuses. hmmmm.... I just walked away.
maybe i should have kicked the crap out of him. maybe I should just keep on walking.
Wise men do NOT share their love or their wife with another man. Successful and confident men never chase or pursue a woman like her. They grit their teeth and move on and show her that being with a woman who can't act and prove that they want to be with you will not be tolerated.
I think would have been tempted to "accidentally" kick the guy in the groin area, enough to thwart his use of that part.
Your restraint is laudable.
Is your W historically this so evasive with you? Has she usually been the sort who harbors a guilty conscious, justified or not (some people are just that way by their very nature) ? If not, then I'd say this is not a good sign.
last night she sat on the sofa in the dark yelling 'HAHAHAHAHAHA' at the top of her lungs for several minutes. then i heard her walking around the house and go outside.
