Orich... Not sure I've posted to you before, but I keep following along, crossing my fingers for you! Sorry you didn't get the present you deserved, and the anniversary appears to be similar, but at least you go to sleep at night knowing you're doing all you can to keep this together. You're a good man.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I know. I knew better last night, too, but I must have a sadistic side.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I could see it coming, O -- all your posts recently about "your traditional present," etc. I could see you were setting yourself up for disappointment. I'm really sorry; I know EXACTLY how that feels, and it sucks, no two ways about it. The one gift you want doesn't cost anything but some time and some effort, and she can't give it to you. Sad.
On a lighter note, re: "gravy" and "macaroni" -- you must by a NYC-area Italian! My wife's family calls it the same thing!
Bingo, puppy! You hit the nail on the head! My family is from Brooklyn (I live on Long Island). Grandma & Grandpa were straight off the boat Italians. I know I was setting myself up the whole time. There was just that nagging hope. I know it wasn't coming from the reason side of my brain. Guess what? That nagging is there for tomorrow night, too. Only this one is stronger, because it is our Anniversary. All I can think of is getting stuffed on Italian food from our restaurant, and then working it off later! As I posted earlier, I will probably end up going straight from work to Taco Bell, then to the gym and work out the extra energy. I will take my time so as to get home after she is asleep completely covered in sheets and a blanket!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I just bought 2 cards for my W for our anniversary tomorrow. Which one should I use? One is a thank you card. It says "Thank you" on the front, and inside it says "Just two small words to express so much gratitude." I thought I would write thank you for the happy times we did have together, and thank you for helping bring our boys into the world. The other one says "I'll be loving you forever" on the front, and on the inside it goes on about how I will love her forever, etc. I figured this one might be good because it doesn't say what a great wife she is, or how lucky I am to be spending my life with her, etc. What do you think?
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I see your point, puppy, but do you think if she has a niggling feeling inside about loving me that reminding her that I can't stop loving her might help her to realize that I am worth staying with? I am not trying to connive her back into the M, just remind her what she would be giving up? Believe me, I know what you mean about being too needy, I thought about that when I bought it, but I thought it would help because I don't say ILY anymore, and I want her to know that I still do. Do you know what I mean?
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Forgive the bump, I need as much advice as I can get quickly, I will be going home from work soon. Thanks.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
