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Don't stand yet, I haven't come to that point. When and if the time comes when I realize that there is no point continuing trying to save the M, we'll see how much talk I am, and how strong I am to follow my own plan.

O,

No matter what happens and no matter what you choose to do, you are STRONG.

For me, I think I will know if I reach a point where it is clear to me there is nothing left to fight for. Can't assign a timetable to it. I have faith I will just know.

I always go back to two things: (1) Can I honestly say to MYSELF I have done everything I could to save the M and (2) one day, can I look at those two little faces God has given me to protect, provide and care for and tell them I did everything I could to save the M. That's my motivation.

Right, those are my exact qualifications as well. I hope If it comes to it, though, that I can make it through without losing it.

I hear ya. I reached my "point" this week. Wife drove in the final nail, too.

I'm sorry.
I thought that point came for me last week when she sent me the letter. It was very final. Then all of a sudden, she texts me that she was sorry for the letter. I am back to being in limbo, I don't know where it is going to go, but I have that spark of hope.
I will pray for you, and watch your posts here to see how you deal with this.

Hang in there, Gentlemen - all three of you. I wish I had a magic wand I could wave to make it all better - for all of us - but you're doing what you need to do, for you, for your children and for your Ms. No matter what happens, we will all get through this and be better people for it.

Take care of yourselves today.

Dia

Thanks Dia, again, I am humbled by the concern of the people on this board. We are all going through the same thing together, and as painful as it is, we go out of our way for each other, support each other, and generally care.
Once again, thank you all.

Advance thanks for the always-much-needed prayers.
Plan is to work on me, PMA and respond through this next/last phase lovingly towards the best friend I ever (once) had.
How I deal with it...well, we shall see. Next roller coaster.

I am still with you Orich and following along. I have just been kind of busy on my stuff. But you are getting great advice here and seem to be well taken care of. I'm glad for that.

Kevin

I've been reading your stuff, Kevin, but don't feel qualified to give advice, etc. But as usual, the others here seem to be doing an excellent job. Keep listening to them! I do, and am much better off for it.