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Oh Puppy...thanks...I crying...I'm angry ..I'm in pain....I wont send it...I'm confused....I would like to see this guy in misery....OH MY GOD!!! help me...

I think I need to read the DB book again

you risk the chance of him trying to make contact with your wife and resetting the no-contact clock. what if your wife views you as an vindictive a-hole who wont let things go. she may view you as a person who will hold this over her head the rest of her life, and that may reason enough for her to leave you or do to this again.

what might be the greatest revenge, if to work on your marriage with your wife in a postive and loving manner. and if this guy ever notices you 2 again you will be an example of how great love and marriage can be, which may be something he may never have. believe me, his wife is suffering too. just not in the way you wish to make her suffer for her husbands inabilities. he will get his own in due time.

I gotta say, DG, that you are coming across this way, at least here on this forum.

Examine your heart. What's your motivation here???

Puppy

I think that your best revenge of all could be to live well. To repair YOUR M and make it strong again. He will destroy his M all on his own. You really want to make him miserable? Let him dig his hole deeper and deeper, so when it finally falls apart he will fall even farther and longer than if you were to stop him now.

We dont all have to agree on here, but you asked for advice, and I gave you my thought on it. Thats all. I think that its sad whenever any relationship ends, sentimental, I know. But you dont have to dwell on their M, yours is the one that needs attention and focus right now. If you want to expend energy on something, put it into your M. Or write the letter, say everything that you want to, but dont send it, burn it.

Oh God thanks for your advice, I read them all. I never imagined going thru this after 29 years of M. I think I got a temporary collapse of "brain cells". This guy is just too close to confort.

steve said:"and if this guy ever notices you 2 again you will be an example of how great love and marriage can be, which may be something he may never have..." ---->I just discovered he launches his boat at the same marina we launch ours. Here is where I'm going to show this guy how is like to be married to a woman just so beautiful and precious as my wife. I will laugh my pants off at his. He will have a chance to compare his 42 yrs old piece of crap with my flamant 49 yrs girl. Believe me my wife is almost 50 yrs old and looks way younger than his wife. BTW, I'm 51 and the POSOM is 43. Well...time to go sleep its 3:30 am. THANKS BLUERAIN, STEVE, PUPPY, FF. I will keep you post it. God bless you all

BTW..Steve: "you will be an example of how great love and marriage can be, which may be something he may never have. believe me, his wife is suffering too"

The OM and his wife are divorced (both). They have been married for like 16 yrs.
Thnks

Here is where I'm going to show this guy how is like to be married to a woman just so beautiful and precious as my wife. I will laugh my pants off at his. He will have a chance to compare his 42 yrs old piece of crap with my flamant 49 yrs girl.

So you plan on humilating his wife(who is a victim of this also) just to soothe your ego???? That doesn't say much for you if that is what you meant!!!

Hi dgtal, I think thats a much more positive attitude than you trying actively to humiliate them. I agree with steve, that his wife knows a lot more than you realize, and blissfully happy Ms are not the place where A's start.

Im glad that you are going to focus on your W, I hope that you can also look at your M and figure out why the EA started in the first place. Its sort of the clean up your own back yard first idea.

... clean up your own back yard first idea...

that's what I'm doing and the reason I ended up in this forum.
I have been doing well until the last few days when I had been feeling emotionally hurt. Thanks bluerain for your feedback.

InLikeFlynn, sorry, I'm just having bad dreams lately. I pray for her and I wish the best for this poor girl.

I wrote the letter, I'll wait, then I may burn it....