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Faith, Faith & more Faith

I don't think that it was a dumb question. If you've asked it several times in the past and have asked again I think it's explainable. This place seems to be a place where we can express our confusion and hurt. The hurt doesn't go away quickly and neither does the confusion and questions.

I think this is a good place to bring up questions even if it is the same one. Whatever you have to do in order to keep from making the mistake in real life with your W, I say do it. Now if someone were to get mad about receiving the same advise over and over again, then that would be sort of dumb.

From a Max Lucado email I got today. It kind of hit home for me. I am on his emailing list. His books are really great and teach a lot. Anyways, here it is.

Count to Eight (Woe, Be Gone)
by Max Lucado
“We have here only five loaves and two fish.” (Matt. 14:17)

How do you suppose Jesus felt about the basket inventory? Any chance he might have wanted them to include the rest of the possibilities? Involve all the options? Do you think he was hoping someone might count to eight?

“Well, let’s see. We have five loaves, two fish…and Jesus!” Jesus Christ. The same Jesus who told us:

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. (Luke 11:19 NIV)

If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. (John 15:7 NIV)

What ever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. (Mark 11:24 NIV)

Standing next to the disciples was the solution to their problems…but they didn’t go to him. They stopped their count at seven and worried.

What about you? Are you counting to seven, or to eight?

Here are eight worry stoppers to expand your tally:

Pray, first. “Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him…(I Peter 5:7 AMP)

Easy now. Slow down. “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him (Ps. 37:7).

Act on it. The moment a concern surfaces, deal with it. Don’t dwell on it. Head off worries before they get the best of you. Be a doer, not a stewer.

Compile a worry list. Over a period of days record your anxious thoughts. Then review them. How many of them turned into a reality?

Evaluate your worry categories. Detect recurring areas of preoccupation that may become obsessions. Pray specifically about them.

Focus on today. God meets daily needs daily. He will give you what you need when it is needed.

Unleash a worry army. Share your feelings with a few loved ones. Ask them to pray with and for you.

Let God be enough. “Your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” (Matt. 6:32-33 NLT).

Eight steps. Pray, first. Easy, now. Act on it. Compile a worry list. Evaluate your worry categories. Focus on today. Unleash a worry army. Let God be enough.

P-E-A-C-E-F-U-L

Uh oh. 25 is on the move now. I think I may get a HARD 2X4 today. And probably rightfully so. I spent to much time dwelling today instead of getting back to focusing on me.

But I know what I need to do. Get back on track. I am doing better after all. Gotta keep it that way.

Kevin

I have a question. About a month ago, I was in the candy store section of the building where I work. This security guard comes in and it is a lady probably in her 20s that works at the front desk of the entrance. Well we are both standing in the same section so I just introduce myself and ask her about her job and so forth. She tells me her name and I tell her mine and that was pretty much it. Nice person.

She works on Thursday and Fridays. Well now when I leave each night on my way out I either say have a good night or have a good weekend depending on which day it is and keep on walking out the door. I'm just being friendly.

Well, she always smiles and then turns her head to the other side while still smiling at me but never says anything back. She just watches me walk out the door while she smiles.

I'm just a bit curious. Isn't that kind of strange? Every single time. Am I missing something here?

I have no interest in her as I am standing for my M. But its just odd to me.

Kevin

For me not to respond would feel strange, but a lot of people can look straight at a person who is smiling and speaking and never respond. Just the difference in people and their ways or customs. Have you tried "not" speaking to see what she does? Might be interesting....lol.

Sandi2,

I haven't tried that one. Maybe I will do that next week. It has just felt a little odd is all.

Kevin

Maybe she thinks you are flirting. You would be surpirsed aat what some folks think. I would hope she could tell if a man was or wasn't but maybe she is "hoping" you are flirting!

Maybe. Perhaps I should just not say anything anymore and just walk out the door. I admit that she is attractive and at one of my weaker moments that led me to talk to being as how she was standing right next to me. But it was just friendly talk. And I have in no way at all intiated any other conversations since then. And she has to be in her 20s, so I don't know why she would be hoping that I would be flirting with her.

Then again, my W was having her A with a guy who was 9 years older than her and then started hanging out with a guy who is 20 years older than her. So I guess anything is possible.

I think it best to just not even say have a good night anymore. I don't want to give any false ideas. I am very much dedicated to standing for my M.

Kevin

Well, don't feel too badly. I was usually the same way unless I got a creepy feeling about somebody. Then a guy I had known almost all my life said something about a girl at work who seem to be very forward or flirty. I was shocked b/c I simply saw her as friendly. When I told him that I was as friendly as she was.....he said, "Yeah, but you've known me all my life". I was so surprised that I wasn't sure how I was suppose to act anymore..... After that, I reframed from appearing to be "overly" friendly! (lol) But I wouldn't think what you were doing was in any way a flirtatious act. Like I said.....it takes all kinds to make up the world!