Well, I am trying not to get too excited, but it is an encouaraging sign. I am chalking it up to DBing and LRT. And of course to all the advice I get here.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Just got back from a pleasant evening eating Burger King in the park with all 4 of us. Playground time and ice cream. Nice, light conversation with W. Home now, putting kids to bed. Hoped W would watch movie or something with me, but she is going out with her brother. (I confirmed this with him as I answered the phone.) Oh well, still kinda feeling good after this mornings text message fr her.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Congratulations, Orich on her decision to attend Retrouvaille. I think I saw on on another thread that you are worried about the cost. The cost varies from place to place, depending on the facilities. And most groups only ask for a percent of the cost as a deposit. They ask for a donation at the end to cover the costs, which are the accomodations and meals. The speakers are all volunteers. They will not exclude anyone due to inability to pay. You will need to make that initial deposit, whatever your group charges, but the donation at the end is discretionary. They ask you to give what you can afford.
I do have a thread somewhere in the Piecing forum which has a lot of info about Retrouvaille, so you might want to pull it up. You mention that you and your wife enjoy Church weekend retreats. My husband and I had never done a retreat before. We loved our Retrouvaille weekend. It was the single, best thing that we have ever done together. Although we are no longer having problems, I often think it would be so nice to go do a Retrouvaille weekend again.
Sara, I will check out your posts, thank you. Fallgirl, I think it is a combination of things, DBing, LRT, Standing up for myself. But I did notice that this happened after I started praying a whole Rosary everyday. The Rosary is a very powerfull prayer.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Thanks for that, Orich. Wishing you continued dbing success. Think its just amazing the turn around in your sitch in such a short time(yeah, I know it doesn`t feel short when you`re stuck in the middle of it!)
Would appreciate if you can pray for my marriage too! You must have a direct line to God!
I pray for everyone here daily. I do believe it is important, and it does work. That being said, I am continuing DBing and LTR because God works through many different means. "God helps those who help themselves."
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Look guys, she only agreed to go to Retrouvaille, didn't she??? Did I miss the part about her being ready to have sex? That's men for ya!
See, that is what just turns many women off! One little word, a tiny bit of agreement or change in mood behavior and men think that is a green light that it is time to have sex and all will be right with the world. Not so. I can almost promise (about a lot of women)....that is why they act so cold b/c they know that if they are just "nice" to their H's that he will understand it to mean that they are ready for sex. LBH's just don't "get it".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Wait, I never said anything about sex, I'm just glad she said something positive! Beleive me I know it isn't a green light for that. I am prepared to wait as long as it takes, believe me.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
