I just wanted to tell everyone (and hope Orich doesn't mind) that you should read the post he left over on ShockedOne's thread! It was fantastic. Gave much more information and he even answered my questions!
Great Job!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Now W is emailing me wanting to know if I want to go camping next week with her sister's family. We just got done fighting about the house and the kids, now she wants us all to go camping like we used to do every summer with her sister and her husband and 2 girls. I said yes if only for the fact that I had been promising my kids to take them. WTH?
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
BTW, Sandi, I don't mind. Your post made me feel very good, and I appreciate that.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Try to look for things that YOU can suggest that the family do together, so you don't have to respond to hers. It's fine (and good, actually) to continue to do family things together, but you don't want to look as if she's leading you around on a leash.
Come up with stuff, and then say "I'm going to take the kids to see that new guinea pig movie on Saturday; you're welcome to join us if you'd like" -- that sort of thing.
Thats good. She is going out again tomorrow night (surprise) and I want to take the boys to my brother's for dinner so the cousins can play together. I am going to tell her that we might not be home if she comes home between work and when she goes out. Also, she just sent another email with the info for the video shoot she is going on in a couple of weeks. It has the date, times, and places they will be and hotel everyone is staying at. She ended the email with "I can get my sister to watch the kids if you have things to do" Nice. I havn't responded
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
It's about the family logistics, so you should respond, in an hour or two. Just say "Thanks -- we'll be fine," and then do whatever YOU want to do that weekend. Make sure you do have something to do, and when you do, get her sister to babysit so that it's sure to get back to her that you went out.
DON'T say where you're going, but come back at a respectable hour (11:30ish).
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
