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She feels bad. That's why the hard hug. She is sad that her marriage is done. She probably felt after talking to you that it just solidified her feelings.

Whereabouts in WI are you?

Just remember to take it as 6 of one, half dozen of the other, she may very well had done so as you suspect due to her feelings, and she may have done so to string you along, you need to keep that mindset in order to protect yourself.

From the sounds of it tho, I'd like to say it's the earlier of 2. Just play it day by day, follow the DB do's and dont's and work on you. If she initiate the communication, keep it out of area that may cause issues, ie the M.

Janesville,

I guess That would be a way of seening it too. I mean at some point she had to really feel that way when she decided to make the big choice of leaving. sep. our kids ect.
we hugged many times befor with her saying many of the same things. My thought was she she sees she still has alot of love for me (she was even saying that) and she does think its over but is second guessing if she made the right choice. after all we had that talk but there was alot of her saying how she was happy befor the last year or two. Lot of good was said too. how I take care of the kids and she says what a good father I am. she seems very hung up on recent things..


But why does she want to be good friends so bad? (her own words were she misses being able to call me and tell me she's having a bad day and how i can chear her up. right now she is afraid that because of the divorce and placment i will use things against her. even though i say i wont and have not done so)

is it the break period? kind of a last chance type of thing so she can clear her head? if we can become friends and work out our problems that it might be her see me as a person she want to be around alot

Absolutely, that's what I was trying to convey, with a cool off period and some help it sounds like you two could make it. Has the conversation of a MC come about?

MIND-READING -- big DB no-no. Try to avoid this, 2009. You have NO IDEA what she's thinking, and SHE may not even either. One of the biggest mistake LBSs make is to try to "read into" every little thing their wayward spouse says and does.

Puppy

True, puppy, that's why I said 6 of one half dozen of the other.

So.......did you look at the list? Have you tried to follow it? If you are going by the DR book, you have to be following the list.

Just checking on ya.


Sandi

yeah, ive read the list but i need to go through it again.. my mind is always going 100mph as they say..

today seemed really good, not quite the way i wanted it to go (i was in her area and offered to save her a trip dropping off my son, well i ended up getting him from daycare for her so i never saw her) but im keeping the happy up beat talks with her and a little humor on the side. when she was texting me. and she seemed to like it.

i guess when the kids are sleeping this weekend i will be spending time rereading.

nope, in the beginning i suggested it but she wanted nothing to do with it.

You can go to a MC on your own, or do the phone coaching that is advertised on here, infact, I think that would be a really good idea for you. Even if you dont go to a MC, you can find some really good books on it. I would suggest that you go look at the Walk away spouse forum.