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My husband moved out after 20 years of marriage in to a realationship with W from work. This happened in January. He is totally different person. I have cried, begged and everything like that until I (my sister) found this webside. We have four wonderful children from age 6 to 21. Now he is traveling with this W and our two yonger children. I think it is way to early. He is forcing everyone to meet this W. My oldest children dont want to. I am going to safe my marriage. Please help me. Give me advice. I love him. (I am posting from the Nordic country.)

I'm sorry this has happened. Have you read DB or DR yet. If not, do so.

How old are you both and are you familiar with MLC??

Thank you so much for responding. I am waiting after the books so I look forward to read them. We are both 41. I have been reading about MLC on the internet but where I live people do not talk about that. He has all the simptoms. He was the most trustworthy men and he was the last person on earth to do this. Please send me something that can help. I am starting to be nice, and like I am feeling allright.

Here is a link to the MLC resources here.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436

Read as much as you can and start posting to others that are in a similar situation. Don't be afraid to ask questions and post on other's threads.

A wise man once said. "we are all in this together....alone."

Please do not try to place your spouse in any of the stages of mlc when you read them. It doesn't work that way.

Thank you so much for responding. I am waiting after the books so I look forward to read them. We are both 41. I have been reading about MLC on the internet but where I live people do not talk about that. He has all the simptoms. He was the most trustworthy men and he was the last person on earth to do this. Please send me something that can help. I am starting to be nice, and like I am feeling allright.

Hello Disa
How long have you been married? Why are you in another country? Are you military by any chance? How old are your children? How did he and the OW meet? How long has this been going on? How did you find out about it? Basically, give us the story and let us know more about you and him.....that will give us some insight and we can start fighting together.
For now, do not talk to him about your relationship. Do not talk to him about OW, like she doesn't exist. Be beautiful and light when you are around him and make sure to end your conversations for now and meetings too.
And yes, there's always hope. Always.

Thank you so much for responding. I am waiting after the books so I look forward to read them. We are both 41. I have been reading about MLC on the internet but where I live people do not talk about that. He has all the simptoms. He was the most trustworthy men and he was the last person on earth to do this. Please send me something that can help. I am starting to be nice, and like I am feeling allright.

Thank you so much for responding. I am waiting after the books so I look forward to read them. We are both 41. I have been reading about MLC on the internet but where I live people do not talk about that. He has all the simptoms. He was the most trustworthy men and he was the last person on earth to do this. Please send me something that can help. I am starting to be nice, and like I am feeling allright.

Hello "almostdonebut"
Thank you, its good to hear from others. I am from Iceland and my sister lives in USA and found this for me. There is not much help here, people just act like you just have to start a new live. Last summer was like he changed over night. Stared to say I am not happy, I need something some out of life, ILBNILWY,we have nothing in common, we have grown apart, etc. this went on for 6 months and I tried everything to help him feel better. And after christmas came the bomb OW.
We have been married for 20 years now in July, we have D21, D19, S11 and D6. We have had strong and very good marriage and been much in love, he gave me the most beautiful diamond ring and necklace just 1 1/2 year ago and told me how much he loved me. We have had our difficulties in live like moving tvice to another countrie starting company in another country and lost everything, lost unborn child 7 years ago, he also lost his mother shortly after that. And now when we were doing so well in our live, found our dreamhouse, having enough money, then this happened. OW worked with him, and he says she understands him.
He just complained about everything what I had done or not done.
I am devestated.
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