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Hey puppy,
Let me ask something.How would a person bust up an affair?With pissing off your spouse?Has anybody done this?

Do you mean WITHOUT pissing off your spouse?

yes. thats what i meant.

Can't be done, and I reject your premise. If you're worried about making you're angry, you're not prepared to bust the affair.

Reasonable people can differ about aggressive confrontation and exposure of affairs, but one thing both groups agree on:

She WILL be pissed.

Puppy

I was just asking a question based on your post of busting the affair so you dont have to wait years and years.In my mind I know it probably wouldn't make things work out and would most likely push her closer to OM and further away from me.I'll just keep working on my life right know.But it does bother me knowing that the affair isn't going to help matters and there is nothing I can do about that.

Oh, I'm not saying it can't be busted. It can. But if you're worried about making her angry, then you won't be able to do it.

Affairs thrive on secrecy, and when you break the mystique, you've usually busted the affair.

Puppy

I don't think busting the A is going to do much good. Didn't you say your W had multiple A's? I think you have to go into the root of the problem. Start off by packing her stuff up and kicking her out of the house.

Not for her, but for your own self-esteem.

No

What Stuck said^

Stuck,
She is out of the house now.3 months.

Sandi2,
Are you saying there is no way to save my marriage?That I should just give up.