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something that Kassie said...

Know that nothing has really changed. He is still the same person, and so are you.


I think you need to ponder on the last 4 words.

I will first say that you have feelings for this man still because at one time he did give you the love that you needed, and IMHO, this man is not the man you M. he is messed up and seems to be going down further and further. Of course you hurt more after he spends more time with you. that would only make sense.

another thing, you are still looking for people to give you your self worth. you will never be happy if you continue this, because your self worth comes from God. You are beautifully and wonderfully made, and you must believe this. You are so important and so special. if you don't believe, you will never feel good enough because we are all sinners and we will all be hurt by those we love because no one in this world is perfect.

So continue healing yourself by loving yourself and the creation God made. everything about you is a gift and very precious.

i thought you understood that his stuff is B****. Don't believe what you see/read - it can all be made up and since when has he ever told the truth? Do you really think he is someone else when not around you?
Ah ha!!!! See, same thing I told you last night via text. And, I swear I didn't read this first. IT'S BS!!!!

Do not let him do this too you. You have come so far and you are waaaaayyyyyy stronger. Don't backslide on things that are really very meaningless. What you said last night...I know the small town thing doesn't help. But, you are going to be fine. You found H there, now trade up.

You guys are awesome. Thank you.

I don't want to engage in crap texts anymore either. Exh sent another text today asking how baby was "Fine". He sent another fight provoking text "sounds like you are in a good mood." I am not responding to his crap. Hes got a wonderful gf...go be with her. I answered his question.

What's the plan this weekend?

I am waiting for exh to come for his visit and then heading out to the zoo again.

So, are you feeling any better today?

Yes, I am feeling better. Tried to keep busy most of the weekend. Spent more $ than I should have but oh well.

Exh was texting alot last night. I couldn't figure out why. I finally figured out that we have a mutual friend on FB and we were leaving comments back and forth along with this other guy who was sorta flirting with me on there. Exh would make these strange texts and then I realized why. He could see the exchange. Its amazing how he has the ba**s to get angry with me for some innocent flirting afer everything he has done.

I did see an email (yes I peeked, but glad I did) from married girl to exh. She is completely encouraging him to get nasty with me. She makes me out to be some horrible shrew, him the victim, and she is going to get me good! Telling him exactly how to hurt me. A little scary to say the least. If exh and married girl continue things are going to get rough as I think she will get him to stoop to lower levels than he may have before.

What she doesn't know is exh texting all weekend. I have been wondering how that will go. Exh is a peacekeeper. He didn't like when I would say negative things about his first exw. Never wanted to rock the boat etc. Yes, that is a different situation, but I am wondering how this will play out if married girl turns out to be rather aggressive.

She sounds scary! I would stay as far from them as possible! Just let exh get on with his life(such as it is) while you move forward in yours. It doesn't seem that giving him any attention is helpful for either of you and may be harmful.

Just not so long ago, I had to put distance between my H and myself for good reasons. You know we saw each other everyday because of work and yet had no contact. It was hard to see him laughing and enjoying the company of others and even to recieve comments from others about how helpful he is or what a catch he is... I just had to bite my tongue and ignore what went on around me.

It was hard at times, but I made myself talk to others and kept busy (during down times at work) with others. Some good things happened during that times with others - such that I have new friends who are very dear and supportive. It was extra hard b/c I didn't want to put our business out in front of everyone and they were good not to ask.

I was miserable for a short time... seemed long but it was up to me. Hang in there.

She does seem scary. I sent the email to BS and she thought she was being over supportive of exh as well. There was just this sort of 'hard a**' tone to it. Like she will do what it takes to get and keep him. She went on to say 'baby needs you, just a few more months and things will change'. I am really scared now. She is very aggressive.

Does she know you don't want him???

She does sound wacky. I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do but maybe you should forward that email to yourself, just in case. Don't for get to delete out of the sent folder AND the deleted items folder...