Check your FE, iron? I was suffering by that all last year and it causes depression too. Dont overlook it, it can be very "draining".
Was the BoB in one of my threads? Because BoB is my faithful friend. I remember we girls talked about it in detail, together with the vegetable section of the supermarkets S
I'm not sure what to do. It's not like an emergency, but I can tell I'm being physically affected by this stress/burden. I need to find something to do to occupy my mind on other things.
I can't tell H about this, as he'll either dismiss me, or not want to hear it.
I have some tests done next week (routine). I'll have to see what can be done. I wouldn't want to go on AD's though. I did it once, and they put me to sleep, and I couldn't even function.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I had a terrible experience with ADs as well. Exercising, eating well and yoga really help (plus a lot of self help). I'm not saying that will fix it but it helps.
Your living situation is tough. Please take care of yourself. I can't stand the idea that your H wouldn't care if you were physically suffering...I don't really know what to make of that.
hey MB, I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling. definitely check out the iron thing, and your blood pressure. if you are getting dizzy after standing up, I've had that from time to time all my life. I used to be anemic when I was young so it happened a lot back then. Also, had you been ill recently? it could be due to an inner ear issue.
I agree with not taking the ADs. only do that as a last resort. Alive gave the best help, exercising, eating healthy, and relaxation techniques.
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- I really do try not to "push." (THERE'S what I was looking for above. He says, I push and push until I get my way. Fair statement of my past.)
okay, sorry to bring this up again, but by the way, if we read something we don't like, there may be a reason for it. so we really should reflect on those things even more. I'm glad that you agree with the boys, they are right.
Let's say that you had been this way (the new you) all along. It would probably be just fine and he wouldn't feel pushed at all, HOWEVER, since you WERE pushy in the past, and for how long will matter too, anything you do will seem pushy. It's like the nagging thing, if a wife has nagged for years, and then she changes and tries to say things in a better way, he's still going to think she's nagging because that is what he has heard for all those years. It's kinda like pavlovs dog, even though there is no more food coming, the dog keeps salivating when he hears the bell.
So, I agree that you need to just let H lead, almost in an extreme way so that he can REALLY see the change, and then you guys can start meeting in the middle.
also, you mentioned you Tear up a lot. I'm kinda concerned about this. I know this is tough, but we need to get you to feeling happy and enjoying life. It's okay to be sad occasionally, but not a lot. so is this like everyday or once a week? Why not think about getting away for a day or something? when you ARE feeling good about yourself, what are you doing different? when you aren't feeling good, what is happening that you can change?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
AAK - I do not do yoga or meditate. I really don't do anything to relax at all, other than have cocktails with friends once in awhile. I walk 3 miles (w/weights) 3-4 times per week, and am trying to eat better. I stopped taking the appetite suppressant I was taking sporadically, and I have seen improvement today.
I hope I didn't make my H sound harsh, because he's really not. If I physically had something wrong, he would be next to me immediately. He just can't get his thoughts/feelubgs around having stress-related, physically affected issues. He would think its all in my head. (Mindreading a vit, based on past experience).
I might try yoga. They have an early class at my gym.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I remember we girls talked about it in detail, together with the vegetable section of the supermarkets 
