allow me to play devil's advocate. When beginning to do the
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paperwork about visitation I just lost it, cried and cursed at him since I began to realize I wouldnt' have my kids every day, I wouldnt' see them at night or when they woke up. We did agree on 2wks vacation for each parent, that thought also boggled my mind and couldtn being to think how I'd survive without my kids. X can go 5 days in a row without calling or seeing kids, I feel ill on the odd day I can't get call my kids during the 2-3 days they stay at their dad's, that's just how us moms are.
our paperwork was worked out by her and I..it was all written down before mediation with some slight changes once mediation started...I do understand how it is for mom's..I really do..I also want you to know though that there are some very good dad's out there...and i am one of them I call Caleigh all the time...
I'm in a similar predicament right now with my Xw over next weekend and the 4th of July playing into it as A) I have my boys for that weekend and B) I have them for the 4th year irregardless. Yet XW thinks she still gets her two cents in where they spend and how they spend the holiday. So, I'm playing this sort of game in return with her that perhaps your XW may do as mine and slowly realize it is pointless to argue it out amd see the err of her ways?
I feel ya..
I could have been a real ass and had caleigh for almost the whole moth of July..the papers say i get 2 weeks summer visitation...6 days/5 nights. My regualr visitation is Wednesday-Sunday one week, then skip a week, then thursday-Sunday......but I chose not to do that...but by the papers i could have done it and got by with it..
If it makes you feel any better, my little world gets a little more twisty.
I worked in 3 weeks, uninterupted visiation (only by way of holiday) for the summer.
Well since all this just happened and I'm two steps away from standing at the end of a highway ramp begging for change (courtesy of my darling XW), vacation (read as time off) is not in my cards. Thus, I am trying to work with XW to have atleast one week in the winter perhaps if my situation improves by then.
We shall see.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
My D18's dad and I divorced when she was two. We did fine with visitation "stuff" until I got remarried (when she was four), and he suddenly became hard to deal with.
FOR YEARS, we had issues because he was NOT flexible, not even by five minutes. Eventually I/we just stopped attempting to be flexible, and lived by the agreement, for the agreement, etc... It's a pretty sh*tty way to live, let me tell you.
The result is, D18 hasn't seen her dad since she was 15. Once she got old enough, she realized what the motivation was behind their "time," and it wasn't her best interests.
Just some food for thought.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
My D18's dad and I divorced when she was two. We did fine with visitation "stuff" until I got remarried (when she was four), and he suddenly became hard to deal with.
so you saying that since Kim may have heard about Michele and her daughters through Caleigh(my daughter) that Kim has decided to just be difficult concerning this beach trip??
see I've been flexible..I've been F'n noodle flexible and so has Kim..up until this..
I just wondering if Kim is really having issues because of the length of time....but I truly don't think Caleigh will have the issues..I think Kim is having them..I think it's separation anxiety....Kim's to be exact...
I was just sharing some of my history with you, in case it is helpful. She COULD be being inflexible because of this. It COULD NOT have anything to do with it.
I will tell you this (and you "know" me enough to not be shocked!)... I had a REALLY hard time being away from D18 when she was young, even up through elementary school for a week at a time. I can understand her hesitation about being without her, and one extra day can seem like a heartbreaking event at the time. HOWEVER, I will tell you if Caleigh feels loved and wanted by both parents, both of you are consistent in her care, and she enjoys time w/both parents, she will be FINE for a week! (Easy for me to say now!!!)
Just my input...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
so you saying that since Kim may have heard about Michele and her daughters through Caleigh(my daughter) that Kim has decided to just be difficult concerning this beach trip??
All I know on that front is every time my XW heard I was 'hanging out' with this person or that she begins to act goofy. Who knows?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I call Caleigh all the time...