DC - Well obviously it sounds good. I like how you handled yourself. Still play it cool and hard to get. If you pursue she might retreat. Keep on doing what you're doing. SOunds like it's working. Keep on working on you. Look's like the draw bridge is down on the castle...
Thanks! You know...funny thing is that it wasn't really hard to keep my cool on this. I was just talking to a buddy of mine over the weekend about how I finally feel like I'm to a point where I can take this whichever way it goes and that now when I talk to W or do anything for her I really don't expect anything in return. Before I would expect a response from her or something but now if I do something it's because I want to and I feel good with it...if I don't want to, I don't. I finally pulled away, and look who's sniffing around old DC now. I swear it's really funny how this stuff all really does play out like everyone told me in the beginning. Still can go either way, and I'll still be fine...matter of fact, I'll be better than fine because I'm a lot different and stronger than I was 6 months ago (not to mention 30lbs lighter...). And thanks Puppy and everyone else who kept repeating to me what I needed to do...I finally got it. ;-)
Wow, Great JOB DC!!!!! This is exactly how you handle it, time to develop a plan for the both of you, that you lead.
Again, sometimes the realization of what it will be like, smacks them upside the head and all of a sudden they can see through the fog. Make sure her vision is clear.
Well, I knew there would probably be some minor setbacks in this plan but I'm ready for them. This morning W said she may have jumped the gun on this. She is thinking now that she wants to get the paperwork back from the mediator and wants to probably get a month to month lease in an apartment starting mid to end July. She will be back east at her family reunion the first week in July. The mediator had said that once we split up into our own places that we would get clarity of the situation and would more clearly know what it is that we wanted. She asked me what I thought of that idea and I told her that if it would help her get clarity and figure out what she really wanted then we should do that. I said if we decide to reconcile that it should be for all the right reasons and with a clear mind and with no doubts about it. She didn't really know what to say about that and so I told her I hoped she had a good day and we could talk later and I headed in to work. Is this a setback....not really I think. I think she is really having to deal with this and I like that she is really thinking this through instead of just jumping into something on the spur of the moment as she has been doing the last 6 months. She could still change her mind yet again and I half expect her to but I'm ready for it. Things are pretty good between us right now and I'm thankful for that as the last 6 months have been pretty rocky between us. So we shall see how this works out and I'll just keep working on me and having fun with D3.
I will remain consistent on this and will need to see some actions and not just words around this before I will be drawn in. She has to do some work now to get me back, not the other way around. So I will be there for her when she wants to talk or bounce things off of me and I will be the best DC I can for D3. That's where I'm at right now. Working on me and getting better by the day!
