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It's good that you didn't kick him .

Keep up with the detachment I know it's hard but it gets better...I FINALLY feel the detachment and it is literally like a huge weight being lifted off you.

I am stuck. Im not getting much sleep these days. Baby is cutting molars and is waking alot. Me and sleep deprivation don't mix well.

Exh sent a text this morning asking if baby was doing good. I said fine.
30 seconds later I get a text "Can you lock the door on your way out. Thanks babe. I love you. Last night was awesome spending the night with you in my arms."

WTF! Guess it was meant for married woman. Guess she ditched her kids and spent the night with exh.

I hate him even more now. Its pointless to respond but I want to tell him what a loser he is.

I have a feeling you DID respond. What did you say?

You know that it wasn't an accident that he sent that to you...come on. You know he's pissed because you aren't giving in to him and aren't fawning all over him anymore. He needs to throw the bait out....see if he can "hook" you again.

LOL I haven't responded. I wouldn't even know where to begin with that one. I am just going to pretend it didn't bother me....even though it did.

I keep thinking how I was up with a teething baby most of last night while he was doing the nasty with her. I wouldn't trade spots though and I have to remember that.

Keep in mind that it is VERY likely he is making it up. I would bet on it. If it's married woman - how did she explain her overnight absence to her H? He's lying...throwing you the bait....don't bite.

Married womans H and her are getting D. He told that to his neighbor and said that she was leaving him for my exh. They still share the home until he can find a place so if he is home with kids she is free to be with exh I guess. I don't know. Just the thought of another family blown to bits is sick.

I am just down with no sleep and really no life. Sucks living in a small town sometimes. Nothing to do but think.

I get the "too much time on your hands" problem. It's exactly what I do. So, now, I do everything and anything to stay busy. I took up new hobbies and do things I wouldn't have done before. You just gotta get creative.

SO2 I think this needs to be your new theme song, just change the she's to he's ...

You say you were wrong to ever leave me alone
Now you're sorry, you're lonesome and scared
And you say you'd be happy if I you could just come back home
Well, here's a quarter, call someone who cares

Call someone who'll listen, or might give a damn
Maybe one of your sordid affairs
But don't you come 'round here handin' me none of your lies
Here's a quarter, call someone who cares

Girl, I thought what we had could never turn bad
So your leavin' caught me unaware
But the fact is you've run...girl, that can't be undone
So here's a quarter, call someone who cares

Call someone who'll listen, or might give a damn
Maybe one of your sordid affairs
But don't you come 'round here handin' me none of your lies
Here's a quarter, call someone who cares

Yeah, here's a quarter, call someone who cares

SO2, I am with B - find more to engage yourself. I did the same most of this year. I stayed late at things, or arrived early, made up things to do, places to go, hobbies, etc. My boss loved it b/c I got so much done - my point was to stay busy and tire myself out.At one pt I thought about getting a pet. At times I got desperate and started chatting with my kids' friends - that was weird for all of us. I think my kids felt bad for me but often wanted to get away as soon as possible. LOL!

I agree that it hard to detach when children are involved, but look back, you had kids with exh and still got out and M. People manage - it isn't perfect but it gets figured out.

Sorry it is a tough day.

I need some help finding things to do.

Small town.
Have to do with baby.
Low cost.

I know I need to change my thinking. I am so consumed with him still.

I did get a glimpse of married girl today when picking up my son. So not attractive and not his type at all. Seriously I was expecting much better. Also, she smokes....exh hates smoking. Something is so not right here.

Oh well.