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I know what I've done and didnt do. Tonight I ended the convo, replayed it in my head and dang!!! H is not living in the real world! I am serious. All the things he said about jobs and money and many details I cant even start to explain here. He is living in a microworld of his own, isolated, probably protecting himself from interactions with live human beings INCLUDING his kids. I remember what he once told me, "everybody I love dies". I am not talking about me, I repeat, even his life with our kids that I know he adores...Everybody always thought he was a private person that kept to himself but I think this has gotten worse. He is not living. Seriously. And he hides behind "I dont like, I am not like that, I am this way...".He is making himself believe that instead of facing it.

I cant explain it. To me, and I AM NOT EXCUSING him, seems like he is living in a weird situation. I have said before he may be depressed but now..., I think this is absurd.

How do you tell someone you think they be loosing it?
K

(((((Kalni)))))

I don't know if you can. Do you think he would accept something like that from you? Do you think other people he knows see it? It might be possible to talked to another friend, if so, and see if they have talked to him, or might. Not sure it is a great idea, though.

Where'd the scantily clad women go?

You can't tell them, they either realize it for themselves and correct the problem or they live that way and become further and further isolated. He could end up being one of those hermits that never leaves the house except for work.....oh wait.....he already does that!!!!!

Sunshine,

If you try and tell H he's losing it, he'll just retreat deeper into his world of denial and accuse you of doing something wrong.

The only person that can tell H this is H himself. The only way he'll discover this is through IC. If he's not willing to do that work, he'll never find it on his own.

I'm just speaking from experience here.

RTL

Just for you Jeff I will drop a few stragically placed veils! Oh my, I feel a breeze. Anywho, do you think his C might suggest he get on anti-depressants or some sort of meds. Maybe that will bring him out of his funk. You obvioulsy can't reason with someone who has their reasoning off kilter.

kat

Ooops, stepped on your veils here Kat!!!

I will keep my mouth shut. But he needs help...
Good night all,
thanks for popping up as always to listen and advise,
K

(((((Kalni)))))

You know we are always here for you!

Good afternoon, Ms. K <3

Hey.. I forgot to tell you how incredible, adorable and fun you are! You are quite the fantastic person. Your friendship has helped me beyond words. I love how you tell it like it is.. whether it's through being straightforward, humorous, Bond girl or the other sparkling facets of what makes you you.

In recognition of your contributions to yourself, your children, the way you love, your friends, support I proclaim

June 18th to be KALNILICIOUS Day.

All in favor, say 'Aye'.

*hugs*

AYE!! Have an awesome day since it is now yours!

kat

AYE!

Perhaps she should have a whole week!