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Funny you should mention this one. My wife actually took my D out and bought her new clothes this weekend. She complained about spending a bunch of money. So, D is good to go for the trip!

Chuckle...did your W say anything about the trip? Have you told her? Isn't Disney free for military right now? Did she invite herself?

These are the type of activities that she will soon realize she is no longer a part...just don't get caught up in the Disney dad/mom scenario that forces your daughter to choose one of you based on whe spends the most...it will not work longterm. One of you has to raise her properly and for now you are the one.

Have fun!

V/R

Wife already knew about the trip and no she didn't invite herself. She's clearly not interested in doing anything family oriented if I'm involved. She has told me lately that the reason she's not coming home now is that I'm mean? Not because she's been w/ other men. It's my fault she's not choosing to do the right thing, come home, work on our marriage and raise our daughter. No, I suspect she isn't going on this trip because my parents will be there as well. And yes Disney is free for military and cheap for dependents right now.

She's trying to shift the focus onto you and make you feel "wrong." You know the truth of the matter. Don't let her break you.

Lucky

So, the wife called last night and asked me if I wanted anything from Seattle. She's going tdy today for a few days. No, I'm good. She did mention that she's considering coming home unsolicited though. Makes me think of Gucci's old posts where if you pull back the OP draws closer. I have been pulling back quite a bit lately so maybe that's the correlation. Whatever, I have so much energy lately. Woke up at 0330, took a swim, went to the gym, lifted and ran and I'm still not tired. I guess one thing good that has come out of this is that I'm more physically fit.

Do not believe her, let her actions speak, not her words.

Burt

And what do you say to that? Do you just ignore it? What you definitely don't want to do is give her a positive response. If she mentions it again I would just say, "it's not as easy as that anymore".

If memory serves, I said, "I see". Not positive or negative. And you're correct, it's not as easy as that anymore. She seems to think that it will be though.

I really like this response!!

Oh wonderful, the wife just called and told me she's at her destination and how she plans on taking time off in August for this and that and how she's going to vacation here and there. Ok, I'm thinking to myself, how exactly are you going to pay for this? Last time she talked to me, she wasn't doing that well financially. She told me she wished we had traveled more. Ok, I'm thinking again, it costs money and we vacationed quite a bit. I guess she didn't marry rich enough. She complained again about D not calling her. She's just not getting this is she? Blah, blah, blah, blah, it seems like she's not happy when she's married and she keeps right on complaining even when I'm not around. WTFO???