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Woke up this morning in a very good mood. Slept great, had a good night before. WAW got dressed and came downstairs, I complimented her on how nice she looked. She really did. She said we have lived together for 7 years, what is different now? I said nothing, you have always been beautiful but my eyes are more open and I want you to know things I have always been thinking.

She asked why I was in such a good mood. Why not, I said. Might has well choose to be happy, and I got a lot of be in a good mood about. She said, yep it takes more energy to be in a bad mood doesn't it?

We chit chatted, almost to the point of a hint of flirting I think. At some point the way the discussion went there was talk about how if I had come up in the past with a certain small gift (inside joke between us) it would have been a win win thing.

I wonder if I should come home with a small gift today?

Anyway, it was a good start to a Friday. TGIF. Hope the best for anyone reading this.

WAW has sent me 1 text and 2 email this morning so far, on nothing really, just kibitzing.

So should I bring home a gift? Seems like that might be a bit of pursuit. Might be fun though.

I would not go the gift route unless she has been sending these positive signals for a while AND you are sure she will want a gift. I'm new to this, but I do not think you want to be seen as too available too early.

I agree. Too supplicating/pursuing.

Probably. Time for that later...

OK, it is getting funny now... up to the 6th email of the day and it isn't even the afternoon yet! I'll keep up my mojo and good mood either way!

Good. Just be cool.

JKL, sounds like things are moving along. I've been reading / learning a lot from your posts.

My W did tell me a couple of times that it's a little too late to be working on our R. Actually today she said "I'm sorry that you're getting on the boat now that I was on for the last three years. I'm done trying. I'm off the boat." My response wasn't a good one, so I need to work on my DBing...

JKL: Question for you...

You mentioned that you don't pursue your W and it sounds as if you're doing a good job. Does this include not initiating any phone calls or E-mails to her?

For example, my W is sometimes looking for jobs outside the Company she works. I used to find some job leads and E-mail them to her. My concern is that if I don't help, the OM will... What about forwarding E-mails regarding friends, jokes, etc. I don't know where to draw the line here. She has basically stopped sending E-mails to me. Thoughts?

I thought others could learn from this as well. Thanks.