I had hoped that his reluctance meant that he did not want to leave me. But he said "Oh no, I think have got to go so I can figure out if I've done the wrong thing".
I recall my exH saying, "I may be making the biggest mistake of my life, but I need to try it to find out". Why not just try harder on the marriage????
Also, he didn't plan to tell anyone until after the divorce was final....so I ended up being the one to tell my MIL! GGGGRRRRR!
We told the boys Friday night that we are splitting up.
I didn't think anything could hurt worse than what I have already been through the last 6 months, but everything up to now was a fun filled circus in comparison.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
yes by far and made even harder that not only is their Dad leaving me but moving away. I doubt I will ever be able to forgive him for hurting our children.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Today is my 20th wedding anniversary. Yesterday H sent me an email professing his love and desire to work things out, but I declined and after sleeping on it I know I made the right choice. I love him, but he has issues that only he can work out and until he is willing and WANTS to do so nothing will change.
As of Friday we will be separated. If I continue to post about my sitch I will move to that forum. I sort of feel like WCW and wonder why continue to post when I get so little interest. I am really unsure why certain posters get so much attention and others not so much.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
That was a very gutsy and cool move! Essentially says: I'm not closed off to that, and I'm not closed off to you -- but you need to open to you first.
I like that a lot.
I sort of feel like WCW and wonder why continue to post when I get so little interest. I am really unsure why certain posters get so much attention and others not so much.
My own sense is that many/most on the board don't post when they agree. It's when something creates a question or they feel compelled to support that they post. So mayhaps you're just a lot more "solid" than others?
