I am on the verge of divorcing so not too much I can offer except this: My best friend and I can read each other so well. Whenever I have that look on my face, all she has to say is: "What can I do to make it better?" Sometimes we talk, sometimes we cry, and sometimes we drink. But just her saying that lets me know she will do whatever I need at the time. Try it once or twice..be sincere. I wish my husband would.
M:38 H:42 T:20 M:19 D:18 S:17 MLC: Sometime in 2007 OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07 OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009 Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009 D final: 07/09/11
So weird you're asking for advice. But you know so glad, b/c you've helped so many of us here.
Asking about pursuing too much or pulling away? I'm thinking you don't pursue too much b/c of your experiences, any serious DBer is careful not to pursue. It sounds like you pull away though and that starts a vicious cycle sometimes, so--don't do that. You've said before I'm pretty sure that sometimes DBing is almost counter-intuitive and we need to do the opposite of what we've been doing. Easier said than done I'm sure. And I do think praying and the Bible might help you have patience. Geez, it's only been 20 years right? Karen
Karen