M, I hope I have NOT given the impression that there are problems w/ Bill and I, because NOTHING could be farther from the truth. Like I said earlier, in a previous post, I was feeling a little down at the time and was just curious if there were others here in a long-distance relationship.
Bill and I knew before we ever got married that we had a choice to make....either wait until the 2 years were over or go ahead. We discussed our options. And, we decided that we didn't want to wait. We both knew that it meant not always seeing each other as often as we would like and not being together for special events; but, we also knew that in the end, it will be well worth the wait.
I do NOT at all regret that decision.
But, again, there are times when I miss him more than others.
I hope that everything continues to go well with you and Michele and that you find the love and happiness with her that I have found with Bill! It is amazing what God has in store for us, if we are patient and wait for HIM.
Oh no..I never ever thought that at all about you and Bill..if my last post insinuated that then i am sorry..that thought never ever entered my mind..what I meant when I said "the distance has not become an issue yet" is that we are close enough to get our fix in person...
FYI when the ex and I first met she lived 220 miles away..so that was harder..so i know about the distance thing..
Like I said..after I'm with Michele for a few days in a row then I go home or she goes home..I feel a little separation anxiety..a little lonely..especially when I don't have my daughter..I think it's the sudden quiet in the house that does that to me..so I get busy..i get out..I go visit my dad who has brain cancer..play golf..MOW..
Michele and I are moving forward..progressing..I'm not afraid..I like where things are going..I can see the future and it looks pretty bright..
naej, I owe you an apology. I didn't mean to ignore your post. Thank you so much for responding and for your kind words.
M, there's no reason for you to apologize. I said what I did because I wanted to make sure no one was getting the wrong impression.
Again, I am thrilled that things are going so well for you and Michele. And, I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I wish you guys all the best!
No problem, Deb it didn't require a post. I just wanted to respond to your little down moment. We all have them even if life is wonderful. All my good wishes to you and Bill. May the time pass quickly.
hey Deb...ya know what gets me??? The silence in my house...I had my little girl this past weekend..and was with Michele and her 3 daughters so it was pretty rowdy...so I parted from all them on Sunday afternoon..
M, I can relate to the silence completely. I think that is a lot of what gets to me, too. While I do enjoy my quiet times, I also enjoy having people around me, or at least someone to talk to.
Wednesday through Sunday one week-then skip a week-then Thursday through Sunday the next..2 weeks in the summer..holidays..
Kim and I co-parent alright I think...and Kim seems to call me to keep Caleigh before she calls her mother...which I think is very telling...bout her mom anyway...
weekends are busy for me..that's my time with my babes..all 5 of them.... lol (michele, her daughters and mine)
lots of driving is probably the only negative...
but you have to deal with that for a time...I have a feeling the distance will be closed sometime in the near future..
M, I'm glad you and your exW are able to co-parent well. I think my exH and I co-parent well, too....I do ALL the parenting, except for every other weekend when he has the kids...LOL. He will have them all of next week for summer vacation.
I'm glad you are able to see Michele on the weekends. I know what you mean about the driving....it takes me 13 hours to get to Bill, although he can make the trip to my place in 11-12 hours.
Hopefully, you won't be having to make the drive too much longer! Bill and I have ONE more year!! YAY!!
First off - can't understand why anyone would be offended by the subject matter. This is the "Surviving" side of DB. It is where we learn how to put our lives back together post D. Where we can ask the very question that you asked. After 7 plus years on DB (a different name), I can tell you that most everyone I met on MLC bb ended up here eventually and did move on to new Rs. And there is no shame in that.
I have been in a long distance R for over 5 years. We are about 90 miles apart but he is currently working 2000 miles away. Regardless, we are both committed to making our R work. He flies home every Thurs, back for work every Sun night. We get together one or two nights a week either at his place, mine or my cottage. We do not talk on the phone every single night as both of us do enjoy our time alone to pursue other interests. And it works! I do not feel any pressure to make more of a commitment - I enjoy my time alone and my own home. When we are together we both make more of an effort to "date" which keeps the spark alive. I don't have to do his laundry or pay his bills or make dinner every night. This might not be everyone's ideal situation but it works for us and I think I have it made.
I think the important thing is to have a full life. Not build your life around someone else's. My guy enhances my life - he does not "make" it. That's for me to do and no one else.
