my xh said that he was taking a break from me and he will talk to me when he is ready. my son had asked him if he wanted to speak with me and that is what he said. NO i still havent tried to call him and I still have had no contact with him. dont really know what he means by this.
my xh said that he was taking a break from me and he will talk to me when he is ready. my son had asked him if he wanted to speak with me and that is what he said. NO
Why don't you know what he means by this??? Do you need the "watch my lips--N - O spells NO" conversation. As a mere observer this seems pretty clear to me, like which bit of NO are you not undersatnding.
It is really good that you haven't called or tried to make contact. Every day you resist is a day closer to your detaching and making a life for you.
As hard as it is, you need to pack up all memories of this man. It is much easier to let go and move on with your life if you don't have things sitting around that will make you think of him all the time. It is hard at first but you will find it does help.
You need to stop dwelling on him. Stop asking the "what ifs", stop wondering why he doesn't call. In plain words anything to do with him.....STOP DOING IT!!! You won't get over him in one day or even one week, it takes time. BUT you have to want to let go. It isn't healthy to keep hanging on.
I know you can do this. Once you get everything packed away then start out by trying to keep busy and not think about him for an hour, then move up to 2 hours, then 3, etc.... You will be surprised how fast you stop thinking about him all the time. You will be a happier person too. It will get to the point where you won't care what he does or anything about him.
Yesterday was my birthday and it is the first time in 21 years that my stbxh did not call or text me to say happy birthday to me. His birthday was Saturday and I did send him a text but didn't get a thank you or anything so I knew not to expect anything yesterday. Did it sting? Yes but that is ok. I'm better off without him. Did I dwell on it? Nope! Not worth it. Better to just move on and not worry about it. A year ago I would have cried my eyes out all day and been miserable. Not now. So you see, it is all in how you want to live your life.
Let him go. Let that part of your life go and move forward to a better one. I want to see you happy all the time without all the questions you have. You can do it!! I have faith in you.
my xh said that he was taking a break from me and he will talk to me when he is ready. my son had asked him if he wanted to speak with me and that is what he said. NO
Why don't you know what he means by this??? Do you need the "watch my lips--N - O spells NO" conversation. As a mere observer this seems pretty clear to me, like which bit of NO are you not undersatnding.
It is really good that you haven't called or tried to make contact. Every day you resist is a day closer to your detaching and making a life for you.
I know what NO means. What I meant is.....I dont know what he means by, he will talk to me when he is ready. Does he think he can just call me whenever HE gets over what ever angier he has toward me? Do they really think it is ok to just one day decide, ok, I am not angry anymore, now I will speak to you? Like it is a privilage or something. He came to pick my son up today to go work out with him and he pulled ALL the way to the door...lol he does this when gf is not with him.lol I am off to work. It is such a beautiful day here.
T2SP, I havent packed up no pictures of him yet. I just have one that is sitting out, not really in view. It doesnt bother me, because he looks totally different now. It reminds me of the husband I once had, not the same man now.
Sunshine, I think he assumes / knows you want to talk to him, so maybe he said that to pacify you, or maybe he is afraid of what he actually might say to you. Yes it is a kind of arrogance that you will actually want to talk to him eventually when he is ready but that is the mind of a MLC er/ WAW. Who knows what he meant and more to the point who cares. You will never understand them. Let it go it is not worth the effort. Enjoy your beautiful weather.
Remember, in his head it is all about him! So, yes, he thinks he can do what he want, when he wants! And, for practical purposes, he can! But that doesn't mean you have to react the way he expects you to! You can't control his actions, but you can control your reactions.
