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Kevin

We had D11's birthday party. W's girlfriend was there and I did my best fake it to make it.

All in all it was a fun time. My friends overheard the W telling her friends that it's hard being a single mom. HUH?! How is she a single mom when I'm there most of the time?! She gets child support! I take the kids to the doctor, to school, to birthday parties... AM I missing something?!

I thought we had a great weekend. The party went well, the kids had a great time. On Sunday, she made a comment that she had to leave for work. I went to church. When I got back, she stayed and we watched The Curious Case of Benjamin Buttons. Then we all went outside and played baseball with the kids. She gave me an unusual smirk, I've seen it before. But I played it cool.

She called the kids an hour later and said that she had a great time this past weekend. This makes two weekends in a row where we spent lots of time together as a family.

This week her parents come up for S5's pre-k graduation. She is supposed to have the kids and I'm going out of town. Today she asked me if I was taking the kids out of town. I told her twice (today) on two different occasions that I told her this could be her weekend. I have a feeling she is going to try and give me a hard time about this weekend.

I've been true to myself. I hope she is doing the same. I see a lot of anger in her, frustration, and sometimes confusion. I know she's hurt. I wonder of it's a MLC or could it be bipolar? I know she used to take meds for it.

Jag, she's playing the victim card. Don't let that bother you or throw you off your game. You sound like you are doing the right things at the moment. Keep it up both for yourself and for them.

The more I hear about your W the more it sounds like she isn't firing on all cylinders. How long has she been of her medication?

She's been off it for sometime now, years to be exact. When she took it, she said everything slowed down and she could cope. I still see her going off on the kids for any little thing, traffic, the weather, spilled water... Even her parents said she might be bipolar.

Ok, W called and now wants to talk about D8's braces. Hell, I just started paying her child support, I had been asking her about the braces for over 3 months and then I left it alone. Now she brings it up again.

Went to D11's last field trip, we went to see the Ft. Worth Cats. It was good time, lots of fun. D11 was really quiet and clingy. She just wanted me to hold. She's silly. I love her, she's my princess.

Well we talked for about 5 minutes. She asked how the field trip went and then jumped into the braces. She says her parents gave her a check for $1500, now she says I have to pay her back. WTF!?

I'm gonna talk to her parents. I have tried witht he braces for D8 for quite some time. Hell she went and got braces at the drop of a hat.

I want D8 to ahve braces but I also have other prioritoes that I need to focus on. Not trying to sound cold but trying to be realistic here...

What is it gonna take to get through to this woman!

There's a reason we hate lawyers.

Sometimes we need them. Lawyer, mediator, butcher, baker, candlestick maker. Tinker, tailor, soldier, spy.

Don't let her set the $$ agenda. If a third-party is needed, pony up -- it'll do you good in the long run.

Well I've been out of town for a few days and then just kinda messing around the house not wanting to post here for a bit. I've been in a funk lately, just a real uncomfortable mood, not sure what is wrong.

I've been staying out W's way of r about week now. Last week she called and made it sound like an emergency, turns out D8 needed her yearbook money. That pissed me off. I was really upset that she had been treating me like an errand boy, but I didn't say anything. I kept my cool, although I did hang up on her when she called that day. Then last Thursday we went to S5's pre-k graduation. My IL's were there. It was good seeing them. My son got up when it was his tuen to announce his name and tell the crowd what he wanted to be when he grows up. he said his name and then yelled out I WANNA BE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA! That was great, the whole crowd stood up and cheered. My W had been texting the whole time we were there, I didn't say a word. She did ask my MIL to let me sit by her, not sure why. Then she leaned over and asked if I wanted to go to dinner afterwards. I said ok if everyone is ok with it. We went to dinner, we all ate, had small talk and then the check came. My W and I both reached for our wallets, I turned and spoke to D11. The check came back but I thought it was supposed to be split in half between the W and I. No way, I paid for the whole thing. I was pissed but kept my cool.

This past weekend I went out of town, back home for a few days. I needed to get away. Again, I was still feeling uneasy, had a burning sensation in my stomach. I went to mass on Saturday, played golf and had dinner with friends. I really missed my kids. I don't like being away from them but I did stay away so they could spend time with their grandparents. I got to visit with my oldest son in San Antonio. That was a nice time, hope to go back again in a few weeks.

Now I'm back at work and the W had been texting me. Turns out she is trying to get me to go to mediation on June 1. WTF! Then her attorney calls me and says that they can force me. I know in Texas, I can't make her stay married to me. But I'm still really pissed that we haven't been able to get the kids into to see the counselor yet and she is ready to live the single life. I'm starting to doubt the whole DB process. I don't think I will be able to keep the house. I feel as if this whole plan is falling apart.

I can't wait to go for a run today. I'm growing increasingly frustrated and angry with my W. It's all about her, her, her...even my D's today mentioned that she has changed since the move.

I'm pisse off and hurt!

I am calling my L to see what I need to do about this mediation.

I had lunch with a friend today. He said that he and his ex are getting back together, starting slow. He said she had been asking to get back for some time now. He said that he was the one that didn't want to work it out. But he realized where he made his mistakes and that thye should have at least made every effort to try harder before they divorced. He said that when he dies, he wants to be able to say I did my very best to work on my marriage and have no rerets.

It seems as if everyone is getting back together!!!!

I feel like I'm letting the kids down.