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Lost,

It's good to hear from you; I've been wondering how it's going. Your wife sounds like she's still in la-la land financially -- her proposal is laughable.

Good job on the GAL stuff -- you do sound reasonably happy and at some peace, which is good. How are your kids doing?

Puppy

Hey Puppy.

Kids seem to be adjusting. I di pick up little comments every now and then from them which leads me to think they are pretending at times. The youngest definitely wants to do things with me when I am there. Stress is causing some spillover effects on the 16 year old I think - she has been sick more than usual. All I can do is be there for them and encourage them to talk things through - but the girls would rather do that with friends at times. And my son is just like I used to be- if I don't talk about it maybe it will go away (we have been having some good father / son chats recently though).

I have heard on more than one occasion from parents of our kids' friends that there is a definite difference in the house when I am there compared to when W is there. More relaxed when I am around. And it seems that the friends prefer to visit when I am there. Nothing will come of that but it makes me feel good - must be doing something right.

{{{Lost}}} So glad you updated and good for you on joining a ball team and cooking..LOVE that!!

The proposal is ridiculous..and let us know how that evolves as it goes on!!

Tawnya

Sorry to hear about the job, I guess karma came and bit him in the rear. Kids do pick up on your stability and thier friends feel it to. Now you know that I am no emotional rock, but the kids and their friends like to hang out with me because I am "cool".

I suppose that is still a good thing to be.

kat

Hello all. (((Tawnya))) and (((kat))), thanks for stopping by.

Nothing really new. W wanted to switch up days to have the kids Good Friday and Easter Sunday to go to her folks out of town. So I agreed - and will be in the house while she is out of town. We switched another day to keep it at 15 days each in April. Goofy thing is that W wanted to know by M night if it was ok. I let her know by noon with the question about me going to "my house" to be with the k's Tu night. She never did reply until I asked her after I had heard from S14 about me being home that night.

Now she wants to plan a holiday to vac property to use our Hawaii (last Dec) flight credits before they expire. She's all nice in her e-mail about that. Plain goofy!

Anyway just wanted to touch base and let you know I am still kicking! Take care friends!

{{{Lost}}}} Thank you for letting us know that you are still kicking around..so we didn't have to send out a search party!! LOL

Yeah..being all nice when she wants something sounds pretty par for the course eh? Hawaii..I'd be all for that myself LOL!

Hope the rest of your week is good my friend!

Tawnya

Hey all. Hope folks had a good holiday weekend.

Not much new in my world. Things are at a stand still. Some interesting things - interesting cuz I am sitting back and all this is happening around me:

- W called the good friends I went to visit back in Feb - W wondered why all her "strongest supporters are deserting her".

- W told these friends she had a terrible weekend just before (yet W has been telling everyone here how great her life is).

- W was spinning things to the friends as if W's M+D were all concerned and worried - even went so far as to say her M+D were upset at how badly I was treating W (???) - friends wanted to talk to W's M+D but W decided against it - by end of that convo, W was in tears and hysterical.

- W has said she should just walk away with nothing

- the EGF that W is staying with when not at home is apparently getting fed up that W is there so much and taking advantage of things without contributing

All in all, nothing new - just interesting.

I am ok. Stayed in my house on the weekend as W and k's out of town. Back there tomorrow night for a 5 day stretch with k's - looking forward to that.

Take care all - will be in touch soon.

I'm so glad you updated. I was just thinking about you this morning. What would you do if your wife remorsefully came to you and asked to try again? Anything happening legally? What happened for Easter? And, how are the kids?

(((wdid)))

Easter was quiet - k's went with W to her folks and I spent a very enjoyable day with my mom and S and her family.

Legally we are at a stand still. W wants the world and still trying to negotiate - likely nearing the end of that rope.

The kids are coping but being put in the middle by W constantly. For example, tonight I get a call from S14 that W's friend has tickets for the Harlem Globetrotters tomorrow (on my first night back with the kids) so can he go. Well, that in itself is not a big deal but (i) what if I was planning on taking him, and (ii) when I wanted to to take S14 to a hockey game on W's night I checked with W directly yet she has him call me. Sad.

I can not honestly say what I would do if W came remorsefully back to me (not that I am at all holding my breath for that possibility). I really don't know. I am spent with the BS, the lies, the abuse, the use of the kids... I am tired of it all. I just don't know. A bridge to cross if needed I guess...

I am sorry that she still doesn't have a clue about finances and such. She still has that heavy fog around her. So is OM still married or are they going through this same stuff? Sad that they will go through all of this and find that they aren't really happy now either.

Glad that you are holding it together.

kat