Has the bank been hounding you? I would say do your best to get it done , maybe shoot for Thursday. Pack everything that you don't need to use now. Leave the kitchen and bare basics for now but pack the rest. Make sure you label each box where it goes or even take a picture for electronics so you can see how to rehook up everything. See if any of your friends can come over and help pack or even move some of the lighter things. Order some pizza and have a party. You, my dear friend, are going to be fabulous!!
kat
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'd love it, but then we'd spend all night chatting instead of the packing I should be doing!!! Are you going to be on fb tonight? Maybe I can reward myself with some fb time after I get X number of packing done??? Karen
I'd love it, but then we'd spend all night chatting instead of the packing I should be doing!!! Are you going to be on fb tonight? Maybe I can reward myself with some fb time after I get X number of packing done??? Karen
Well I was checking my bank account and was shocked at my cell phone bill. It has stayed pretty much the same since September so I don't even usually worry about it. Well I was shocked to see that it was 5 x the amount I normally pay!!! I went on line checked my account and then looked at the second phone. Oh yes S16 has been going crazy texting.
I told him since I don't use my phone much, really just for emergencies that I didn't want to buy unlimited texting. didn't feel it was necessary. I was sooo mad that I texted son and told him how much his part of the bill was. He replied that I should have had unlimited texting. but that yes he would give me the money he has.
I said you will be paying the full amount of your portion of the bill plus the monthly unlimited texting fee. Told him that I thought he could handle this but apparently I was wrong. He replied back that yes, he went overboard that he will pay the whole portion that he ran up and that he was sorry that he let me down. He just has to realize that this affects everyone and thank goodness I had started to rebuild my savings. But now I will have to postpone some work I needed to have done on the car. Hopefully this next bill won't be nearly as bad since he started his job but I anticipate it being higher than normal.
Am I totally gray yet?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ex is now mad that I had s16 pay even a portion of the bill since he gives me sooo much money. I didn't mention it to him, this is between s16 and I. I firmly believe that he is responsible for the additional amount and needs to pay it off. Ex, in the true form he was raised, sent me an e-mail asking why money was taken from his(s16's account) without his knowledge. Why was s16 paying anything, this was my responsibility and should have more than enough money to pay for it.
The man has no principles. Our son made a mistake, one of many to come and he needs to know that there are consequences for those mistakes. He needs to pay the bill. Will it be a painful lesson, yes. I was almost in tears I was so upset about it, but I held my ground. S16 was remorseful, understood the gravity of the situation, no credit to fall back on...just cash to pay bills, buy groceries, clothes etc. Now because of this some things need to be put on hold.
My take is that this situation is between the two of us. Ex wouldn't even have known except that he watches the account. My dad used to humiliate the heck out of me when I did things wrong. Paraded my mistakes in front of his friends with me sitting there mortified. I don't think my Dad needed to go that far and so I won't go that far with my kids.
I don't think I am wrong here.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I don't think you're wrong. Being responsible for one's actions is part of growing up, and a key lesson we need to teach our children. Maybe XH never learned these lessons? Or chooses to ignore them, since many of his recent actions are hinged upon the lack of responsibility for the choices he has made. Your decision to make your son pay his part was perfect.
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He's just mad that he has to pay money to you at all. Reality is here that even though he wants to start a new life and forget about his old one, he can't....he will forever be tied to you (as it was suppose to be because you made vows) and it kills him that he has to pay you money when he wants to forget you. CONSEQUENCES of his decision to leave you and his family.
Your lesson to your son was perfect, and even your son knew it.
