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Okay, you're cracking me up with the door knob thing on my thread. TTYL.
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Ah, so others believe in Karma. I totally believe in karma & fate, strangely enough. Your W will have to learn to take care of things herself. HHmmm, my H cannot say No either. And thus he will agree & then not call pep. With me, when things weren't good he was totally unavailable. Yet, I can manage on my own - so no big deal.

Good to hear your taking care of your learning curve. Low stress is the best!!

Hhmm, I'll have to catch up on your jokes.

Hey, don't forget you already have a friend in CO - me! But we will have to do grown up things because I don't hang with kids. I'm sure your D is great but it's just not my thing. I'll take you to my sports bar.

I totally believe in karma too. Had a point a while back where I had to make a big decision about my sitch/other personal life. Within a few days I had a lost credit card returned unused and OW got laid off. Karma.

But I strongly recommend letting your W deal with her own problems. It's not being mean, it is allowing her to deal with the consequences of her actions. She chooses to be single then she chooses all aspects of single life.

Yep but try explaining that one to your eight year old without calling her mom some inappropriate name



Then you should have married me... Mr Too Dang Available! We would have always been there for each other, then none of this would have ever happened..... We would be sitting around drinking martinis, would have never had problems, never searched out and found this site, never read each other's threads, never met and never known each other... but then that would mean we never gotten married in the first place??????????

See how that logic works.. ad if you followed that then you too - are watching too many reruns of "Get Smart" and excuse me... I need to re-read the label on the pills my doctor prescribed.....

PS... you know one of my biggest fears is that my wife will one day see the stuff I write here Oops!

I haven't I am totally looking forward to the sports bars. Daughter does love to shoot pool but I need some adult time with friends too. I'm sure she won't be too offended. I'm not a big cat person LOL!

your scaring me... I keep thinking you're going to move out of town before I get there



and you are right there. It's funny... if I help I think what an a$$ but when the problem first present's itself I just jump up to help fix. Part of me want's to say it's because we are not out there yet and I am afraid to come off as an ass but the truth is that I just haven't cut the rope. I am not doing anything for her that I wouldn't do for my neighbor......BUTTTTT.... my neighbor didn't leave me for another guy either LOL!

SO.... biggest challenge of the week?????

not the car transmission going out, not the power going out, not the 90 degree heat without electricity....

but I was playing "bat and catch" with daughter. She hit the ball (a great hit by the way) and I watched the ball roll right into the storm drain on the street. So I told my daughter I'd be right back and ran into the house to look for a tool. Came out and she set the bat down on the street and was looking into the culvert, she stood up and said, "I can see the ball dad" and I watched the bat roll right into the storm drain....with a smile.

Life is so funny when you realize not to sweat the silly stuff. Of course losing a $100 bat into the sewer system instead of a $5.00 ball....takes on a whole new meaning of Retrieval.

Neighbors walked by as I came out the the manhole and asked if we lost a ball.... should have seen them when I came out with the bat....

Yep... pretty soon all the neighbors will have heard about the new guy and his daughter LOL

Oh and Pearl... if I happen to run into your BF I promise not to call him a dork.... but I can't promise anything if I ever see the idiot (ow) at the bowling alley

Gosh.... I wish this never would have happened.......

but one of the bright spots was meeting all of you!!!!!

Aaahhh, how sweet.

Gosh ..... was it too many pills, too many martinis, too much heat or too much sewer water?!?!?!!!!!

Well, the earliest I would leave town at this point would be July but xBF is stepping up these days so the move is on hold for now. It will depend on how I feel about him after we really get into things.

Ah, not a cat person. That's cool, I wasn't an animal person at all until I got mine. Just means you can't hang at my house since the black furries have the run of the place. No pool at my sports bar but decent food (a little on the spendy side) and lots of tvs. Actually I will have to look for a new one since I don't want to bring xBF there with me and I refuse to go to his sports bar because he took OW there. Will let you know what I turn up.

Hey, let me know if you come out here anytime before the move. I can give you a little scoop on the area.


Really? You'd do all that for a neighbor? I'm guessing you'd do one or two things for said neighbor but not everything that W asks for help with.

Think about it this way: you are really hindering her ability to grow as a person if you are always there to do whatever she needs. I'm sure you want to raise your D to be an independent woman who can take care of herself. Don't you want the same thing for your W? It's good for W and it's good for D to have a strong role model. Since W isn't being a good role model in other areas (ahem) it would be good for D to see her handling her own responsibilities. Make sense?