They aren't looking at possibilities a few years down the road, other than how their life would be so much easier without you in it!
That seems to hold true for me; she sees me the way I have been (admittedly not a real pleasant person) not what I can be. I just need to give her space and time right now and work on myself. 2 weeks into this and things ARE getting better and I feel better about myself. Good luck to you!
Ron
M: 47 W: 50 D: 19 S: 16 Grandson: 21 months (now officially our son) Married: 10/2/89 Divorced: 7/31/09 XW moved back home 11/12 Re-married 5/25/10