First, I think you handled yourself good and appropriately with your wife and the friend. Good job!
I think it's typical for a WAW to do these things. They don't want anything around that reminds them of us, or the associated unhappy feelings. Don't try to read into it, and don't try to analyze! Their minds are spinning, probably, and they have a lot of crazy emotions too! Maybe some WAW here could chime in on this, but, I think they have a lot of baggage to deal with too!
25 said that you can 'choose' to feel differently, and you can start that by 'thinking' differently. We need to realize that nothing, and I mean nothing good is going to happen for us if we don't start choosing to feel differently and start thinking differently. We need to see, finally, that what we've been doing is not working! "Where the head goes...the heart will follow". It's never too late to start doing what's right! Let's start NOW!
Well Put Antlers. Hope everything is going well for you, keep up the good work, and always have hope in your heart, it will help you with concentrating on the process of changing yourself.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story
First, I think you handled yourself good and appropriately with your wife and the friend. Good job!
I think it's typical for a WAW to do these things. They don't want anything around that reminds them of us, or the associated unhappy feelings. Don't try to read into it, and don't try to analyze! Their minds are spinning, probably, and they have a lot of crazy emotions too! Maybe some WAW here could chime in on this, but, I think they have a lot of baggage to deal with too!
25 said that you can 'choose' to feel differently, and you can start that by 'thinking' differently. We need to realize that nothing, and I mean nothing good is going to happen for us if we don't start choosing to feel differently and start thinking differently. We need to see, finally, that what we've been doing is not working! "Where the head goes...the heart will follow". It's never too late to start doing what's right! Let's start NOW!
Well Put Antlers. Hope everything is going well for you, keep up the good work, and always have hope in your heart, it will help you with concentrating on the process of changing yourself.
It makes sense...doesn't it? Hard to do though! Everything is going OK...under the circumstances. I intend to keep up the hard work! I've made a firm committment to improve! Regarding hope...I think a positive state of mind can act as a direct antidote to a negative state of mind. Keeping hope alive is a comfort to me...to know that I haven't abandoned her even if she has abandoned me. My committment is a big deal to me...I'm proud of it in myself...holding out hope that things could change!
Thank you for responding...I hope things are good for you too!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
First, I think you handled yourself good and appropriately with your wife and the friend. Good job!
I think it's typical for a WAW to do these things. They don't want anything around that reminds them of us, or the associated unhappy feelings. Don't try to read into it, and don't try to analyze! Their minds are spinning, probably, and they have a lot of crazy emotions too! Maybe some WAW here could chime in on this, but, I think they have a lot of baggage to deal with too!
25 said that you can 'choose' to feel differently, and you can start that by 'thinking' differently. We need to realize that nothing, and I mean nothing good is going to happen for us if we don't start choosing to feel differently and start thinking differently. We need to see, finally, that what we've been doing is not working! "Where the head goes...the heart will follow". It's never too late to start doing what's right! Let's start NOW!
Well Put Antlers. Hope everything is going well for you, keep up the good work, and always have hope in your heart, it will help you with concentrating on the process of changing yourself.
It makes sense...doesn't it? Hard to do though! Everything is going OK...under the circumstances. I intend to keep up the hard work! I've made a firm committment to improve! Regarding hope...I think a positive state of mind can act as a direct antidote to a negative state of mind. Keeping hope alive is a comfort to me...to know that I haven't abandoned her even if she has abandoned me. My committment is a big deal to me...I'm proud of it in myself...holding out hope that things could change!
Thank you for responding...I hope things are good for you too!
Antlers,
Keeping hope alive.... I will remember that as I feel the same.
Last edited by markhaving probs; 05/01/0911:18 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
