Hey Everyone, I have not disappeared. Still here just sooo much going on. My blood test came back and everything looks good.(I little high in the collateral area)but nothing to worry about. We just had a meeting at work and found out that 1 out of 4 people will be let go on Wednesday.(next week). Not sure where I stand. But I can't worry about things I have no control over. It will be strange getting laid off after 28 years in the same company. Wife was laid off from the same company 8 years ago after 29 years. She is still not working. I go in for my colonoscopy on Tuesday. So this weekend I am going to pretend next week does not exist. I am going to go and get my veg. plants for my garden. I "May" take son fishing.. As for my marriage? Well things are "ok". I think wife is reliving her lay off through my possible one. She says it was really traumatic for her and she has not been the same and has not gotten over it. I think to myself "how traumatic do you think it feels to find out your wife cheated on you?" But I have let go of that .. Really I have. But Through this book I am reading I see more and more how I have been a wuss. I have found that I let allot of the things that have happened to me Happen to me. (Ya know what I mean?). I was going to have not really a talk with wife but TELL her how I feel and how I need commitment. And if she can't give me that then SHE needs to move on. .....
BUTT.....With my "camera" appearance and the possible lay off I am going to wait until I find out if I have a job or not. NOT that it will make a difference. Even if I do get laid of it is time. But I don't want to stress out on too many fronts at once. So there you have it. It is going to get into the 80's this weekend. I still have not smoked. And I woke up this morning. I know some day I will not wake up in the morning and that will ruin my whole day.....
later gater Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
What's one of the first lessons you learn when the WAS cheats on you? It's not about you, it's about them.
Same deal for W and (possibly) for you when facing being laid off - it's not about you.
You've learned that happiness, fulfillment, and motivation don't come from other people - they come from within. If the worst happens (I hope not) and you are laid off - remember that. It's carried you through tough times in the past, and it will again in the future.
Too bad your W hasn't learned that lesson. Maybe someday, huh?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Echoing what Rob stated so well. It took me a very long time to realize that when I was laid off back in 2003 and it took me nearly three years to get back where I needed to be and I had absolutely no support from W during that time. We all are hoping for the best...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Well I just got back from the butt doctor.... I'm CLEAN...Nothing to worry about now for 10 years..
So I am going to do a little journaling here..
This has been one CRAZY week. I have been reading allot of David C. book. It does repeat what Michele says about GAL but it's little more for us "guys". But things are progressing..All this week My wife made sure I had the right things I needed to prep for my test. she went out and bought all the stuff. SHe took me in and was going to wait but the Nurse told her it would be about two hours so if she wanted she would give her a call when was comming out of Anastasia. So wife did go home and wait for the call but this time when I was waking up she was there..(Last time I had surgery wife went shopping and did not get back until after I was out of the recovery room). This time she was there and when I got up to leave I kind of fell back a little and she told the nurse she wanted a wheelchair to get me out to the car...When I got home I was hungry for a sandwich and she volunteered to go get one for me. The also said I can't drive for the rest of the day and I wanted to wash my jeep so wife said she would move it on the driveway for me..
BUT I am so afraid I am getting into that "Comfortably Unhappy mode" Tomorrow I go back to work and find out if I am being laid off or not. But no matter what that outcome is I NEED RESALUTION. I am afraid that when I start talking R again we might take 10 steps backwards but heck it has been two years. I think I have given her plenty of time to decide if she wants out or not.
Well I need to go water my plants. (I can't use power tools or drive the rest of the day but my wife said it's ok to use the hose..
Take care everyone.. I will fill ya in tomorrow
Later Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
