But how "insulting" that I would imply (when I confronted her last week about EA) that she's obsessed with OM and behaving like a teenager! Why does there always have to be another man suspected? Can't she just want freedom for herself? It is SO insulting to suggest that a grown woman would behave that way! Clearly we can never be friends.
I just had the same discussion last night and then again this morning. In the view of my W, OM has NOTHING to do with what is going on in our R. Our R is bad, unrepairable, and OM has nothing to do with that. If I think otherwise, then I am obviously the one who is deluded and obsessed with the OM...
AAAARRGGHHHH!
"Wife, I agree that OM is not the only issue in our marriage. However, at the moment, he IS the most immediate obstacle, and that needs to end so we can address our issues."
Thank you. I need to copy that onto a notecard and carry it with me
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
But, note the two necessary logical preconditions to Puppy's notecard wisdom which presumes that (a) WAW will agree that OM is AMONG the issues in the marriage (mine does not) and (b) WAW will agree that there IS a marriage in which issues exist (mine does not). OM is an "outcome" of a marriage that is "done."
STILL looking for my mojo. Today is W's house-hunting day. It's not the house-hunting that's sucking the life out of my mojo per se, it's the thinking about that rapidly approaching day when we have to sit down with S9 and D6 and drop the bomb on them.
Had a GAL activity last night -- quite an unusual one. I was invited to a reception at an embassy. Wore a new Calvin Klein suit (dark blue with a very faint chalk stripe), Egyptian cotton shirt with French cuffs, some of my expensive new French smell-sweet-sh*t.
Not a compliment to be found in the county. Oh well. I looked good. I knew it.
Interesting conversations, a pleasant couple hours.
When I came home, though, I pulled up short outside the front door -- WAW was literally screaming at the S9 because (apparently) he wasn't doing what she'd demanded (surprise -- S9's are natural-born back-sassers!).
I didn't want to bust in -- DB Coach suggests I let WAW see what it will be like to be alone in her own house with them -- but by the same token, WHAT THE FARK?
So after it quieted down, I went inside. WAW was perfectly composed. "Hello! How did it go?"
And why was she yelling? I don't know, exactly, but could it have something to do with the fact that she was on the computer? Hmmm. And had been there for quite some time to judge by the empty ice cream container, coffee cup, etc.?
Nah.
Anyhoo. I'm still in a funk. Gonna swallow a Xanax. Thank Jah for the happy pills.
Take them somewhere! Go see that movie monsters vs aliens in 3D. Don't let her see you in a funk!
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
