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What I'm doing is (I think) pure AS IF.

Today I could tell when she called that she was struggling emotionally, so being the stand-up guy that I am I told her that I am perfectly willing to be the punching bag for whatever sadness or rage or anger or whatever she has that she needs to get out.

Because I really want her to have a nice, clean, fresh start in her new life. It doesn't do the kids ANY good to have their mom down, and plus they're embarking on a great new adventure -- two homes, how cool is that? They're going to feel sorry for those kids who only have one.

I'm so totally committed to a successful, pleasant, happy break-up that it just TOTALLY bums me out to see her struggling so. So if there's ANYTHING I can do to help make this easier on her she shouldn't feel embarrassed about asking. Heck, that's what friends are for, right?

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Yeah, you did. But you warned me that I'd have to have some huge and painful surgery -- you didn't say ANY DAMN THING about running around! Who knew those courts were THAT big?

I'm going to disagree with you there, polly. I think it is WELL WITHIN the realm of possibility that WAW sincerely doesn't want to be either or both of married and/or married to me. Surely one has to include that in the set of feasible reasons.

That's what my wife said to me. She doesn't want to be married to me or anyone else. No one to control her life except her.

Hey man, I spent some time today reading through all of your threads.

First, you have the kind of messed up sense of humor that I love, thanks for a few laughs I got today. It's been a real rough one for me so I needed the laughter.

Second, I am truly impressed by your Db fortitiude/testicular even. I must admit I have screwed up over and over, so reading how you have dealt with your sitch has provided needed guidence.

Thanks, keep it up.

Damned if I know. Frankly I'm not all that certain you can.

Just got off the phone with WAW. Thanked me for my offer to listen. But she's good. She's ready. It's on. Meets with the realtor on Sunday.

Okay. Roger-out. Headin' for the Big D, don't mean Dallas.

So what else can I do but accept and drive on? If she "dulls" it, bingo; if she doesn't, we'll always have Paris...... Texas.

Not nearly as romantic, I'll admit, but you get the idea.

You want to watch a train wreck or are you like me and just can't look away, read my last post. I put it up a few moments ago.

WAW went to dinner last night with Enabling BFF Girfriend. And made a point of calling me from the car -- which has Bluetooth -- to tell me. Why was that a "point"? Because BFF and WAW work in the same place and intended to go back after dinner. So...did WAW and BFF, working in the same place, going to dinner at the same restaurant together, both intending to return to work, take two separate cars?

You get the point.

SP was long a'bed by the time WAW got home. We'll see what the effect was on WAW's outward attitude. Because they probably didn't talk smack about SP. Nahhhh -- that wouldn't happen. Smile and wave, boys; smile and wave.

Today, another GAL activity. Another PHYSICAL GAL activity.

George Bernard Shaw was right -- youth is wasted on the young.

WAW is obsessed with OM. SP installed a monitor on his computer. Checked my weekly report. Status checks on OM's Facebook page every single day of the week, some as short as 5 seconds -- but a check nontheless.

But how "insulting" that I would imply (when I confronted her last week about EA) that she's obsessed with OM and behaving like a teenager! Why does there always have to be another man suspected? Can't she just want freedom for herself? It is SO insulting to suggest that a grown woman would behave that way! Clearly we can never be friends.

.....I won't say it, ladies. But I'll think it. And it starts with "P-" and ends with "-on" and has "-odpers-" in the the middle.

George Bernard Shaw was right -- youth is wasted on the young. [/quote]

No doubt about it!