After my successful db'ing I did look at it as a playbook, a plan for myself to get better from the total devistation that my wife laid on me. If my wife noticed a better me and came back then great, if not, hey, I am still a better person for it. Now that all of that is behind me and I continue to work on myself, I have even thanked her for doing this to me, because I am a better man now than I was. (she thinks so too)
Any questions?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
We have a saying that is so true for your situation. "GOD may not answer you when you want him to, but he's always right on time". You see just when you think that he's deserted you he comes through. Man I was desperate(in his sitch) and I didn't think he would listen to me but he heard me and answered my prayer. Your wife has got to want to change. If she remains stuck up, continues to harden her heart and refuses to change GOD may remove her from your life completely. That is something you must be prepared to deal with. GOD is not in the business of breaking families up but you'd better be careful of what you wish for. He may have a better woman for you.
Food for thought, food for thought.
That is great food to chew on for a while :-). I know it applies to my sitch right now as well as many others here. Thanks for sharing.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
After my successful db'ing I did look at it as a playbook, a plan for myself to get better from the total devistation that my wife laid on me. If my wife noticed a better me and came back then great, if not, hey, I am still a better person for it. Now that all of that is behind me and I continue to work on myself, I have even thanked her for doing this to me, because I am a better man now than I was. (she thinks so too)
Any questions?
OK Coach, you're dismissed. If we need you, we'll look for you laying on the beach at Maui, reading your playbook and considering all new lucrative contract offers.
We are supposed to meet up with Mules on the beach in Kiawah after Easter if you want to comeup.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Hmmmmm, recieved an interesting email from the wife a bit ago. Another job announcement for where she works and something about picking my daughter for a med appt and I'll talk to you later. Some small talk about this job as well.
Ok, I didn't respond to it--didn't see a need. Anyway, she called me about 2 hours after the fact and asked if I recieved it. I told her I had and she asked why I hadn't responded. I said I didn't feel a need to. She said well did you want to come and pick daughter up from the apartment or did you want me to bring her home after med appt. I said, well, she'll probably be sore from procedure(minor procedure) so why don't you just drop her at home? She said well, I figured she'd want to look at her new furniture. Then she said, you're right I guess that can wait. She was sitting outside the house waiting for my daughter. She said I called her 2 f$#%ing times and she's still not ready--(ok, I thought to myself--this is my problem, how? And you can't control your anger why?) Whatever--honestly, was it really necessary for her to call me?
Funny thing is, last night on our walk, my daughter said she didn't care about the new furniture and that she wanted to live with me. I told her that's fine, don't worry about it.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Called the wife after I got off work to see how procedure went and she's at Walmart with my daughter. She said it fine, she's good. I said ok, you bringing her home? Yep, in a bit. She says, Hey they have the new James Bond movie here, did you want me to get it for you? My treat. I said, no that's ok. See you in a bit.
Ok, back and forth, back and forth. Why would I want her to buy me a movie? That almost seems like a gift of affection? The only gift I want from her at this point is to drop this foolishness and move her butt home so we can be a family again.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
