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Originally Posted By: jaguilar
Maybe you should avoid emailing him. Give him some time to think his actions through. And this will give you some time to think things through too.

Make that trip to Vegas, break out the little black dress and hit the strip! You deserve it.

And I don't know if I told you this but Thank you for everything that you do to protect and serve our country.

I always ask my kids if they want to see a REAL SUPER HERO and they yes; and I'll point to the men and women in uniform.

Go to Vegas and always bet on black and don't forget to double down.


My pleasure....

I went black for awhile and it produced good results. My H and I are finally being friendly again - so for now I want to hopefully continue that and re-establish a good line of communication. I think going dark for a few days (or longer) sometimes is a great idea.

Regardless if I go dark, I know he has plenty of extra time to think! H is bored out of his mind over there right now.

I am excited about Vegas. My best girlfriend and I have been trying to take a fun trip - but she kept getting pregnant! Now is the time to go before it happens again :-)


Me:28, first M
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Kevin-

How are you doing this morning? I know how to play but never play. Seems like a fun male bonding activity.

I'm doing good this morning. I slept well last night. And am ready for a long day at work. I am really trying to focus on all the good things I have coming up and not on my Hs and my R. I think I have analyzed it enough for my entire lifetime these past few months. I am very satisfied our M is in the Lord's hand and everything will play out in time.

It's always a good day when I can say something like that and mean it :-). I should read back on that post when I'm having a hard time....


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What's going Fit? How are you?

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Hey Jag - I'm good. How are you doing?

I had a pretty good day. Work was busy and the day flew by... I got a good workout in also.

I am doing some research on a bible verse that has continued to pop up in my reading for over a month now. Hosea 3 - Hosea is commanded by God to reconcile with his wife who had committed adulterey. Talk about great lessons on hardship, unconditional love, and forgiveness. So I am googling & learning :-)


Me:28, first M
H: 33, second M
Married: 08/08
Bomb: 10/08
H filed D and deployed: 12/08
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I deploy: 07/09
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Ha! I just got an e-mail from H only saying... will you please go to the deputy's office today? (D papers are there) Should I just ignore him?

I honestly do not have time tomorrow and do not feel obligated to pick them up.

Why does he continue to nag me?

Last edited by FitChik; 03/27/09 04:27 AM.

Me:28, first M
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Bomb: 10/08
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Haha... just received another email from H in response to an e-mail I sent him. His reply was "I'm not answering you until you pick up those papers".

I feel like I'm in elementary school.... I feel like he's throwing a temper tantrum.


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Bomb: 10/08
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He is throwing a temper tantrum


SO go dark and don't pick up the papers.

What's he gonna do--leave Iraq and come home and fuss at you?

Ignore his emails. Oh, and if they have not reserved you before then--on April 1st, email him, tell him you picked them up, then type April Fools and go dark again.

that was said tongue in cheek and is in no way a real suggestion, I just want you to smile

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


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:-) I like it! A reaction like that deserves no response....

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Me:28, first M
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Bomb: 10/08
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You'd think H would have learned by now that nagging generally causes the opposite reponse that is desired. A daily reminder is not going to encourage me and is just irritating. Like I really could forget I have D papers waiting anyway!


Me:28, first M
H: 33, second M
Married: 08/08
Bomb: 10/08
H filed D and deployed: 12/08
Served: 04/09
I deploy: 07/09
Hearing date: 08/09

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I have a funny gut feeling that H will call me this morning and do more nagging. I'll find out if my gut is right....

What do you think he believes he accomplishes by continuing to nag me? Do I need to set a boundary with him?


Me:28, first M
H: 33, second M
Married: 08/08
Bomb: 10/08
H filed D and deployed: 12/08
Served: 04/09
I deploy: 07/09
Hearing date: 08/09

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