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Hi BND,

I don't know if its patience or my will never to give up.

No He knows my boundaries. I have told him earlier this year. It isn't possible for us to move forward in our relationship(or whatever you want to call it) with OW>

I told him I understood what he was saying , but there is that 1 factor that keeps a wall between us.

His response was: There's not much to b done about that. I'm sorry . I just want to repair our lives.

So it is what it is then.

I see your doing well.

So....

What would happen if you went dark?
If you weren't so available other then to drop off your daughter.

What an ego trip he is on...

Two Women wanting him...why the hell should he give either of then up?

Oh, It wouldn't be so hard for me to go dark. I'm okay with that. In fact, that's what I'll do.

I was feeling he already gave me up, but seems to want to keep me hanging on.

I did from January till the end of February..really I was just to be busy to bother with him. But I let him get in to my world again..now i will just close that door once again. And remember not to open it unless he has the key.

(good analogy )

He lives with OW for heaven's sake. I do not need to be filling his love tank. She can.

If you're filling his love tank...I think you're doing it wrong...or he is is built really f-ing weirdly. ; )

Ok, I said that wrong..adding to his EGO would have been better.Why does he even want a part of me, if he is happy with her? But Jack, I do think he was built weirdly anyways!

Honestly Kiki, good for you for realizing this. Too many people would give up their self respect for the attention you have been recieving...and it is not worth it. Not on their terms without boundaries.

No its not worth it..and it took me awhile to realize that. But like I said before, I'm the prize. Thanks, Jack.

That's for damn sure....
YOU are the prize, and don't ever forget it.

KIKI
Hi
nice to see you posting and catch up on your situation
It is weird
but I see many of the WAS trying to keep /have some connection whether pysical or emotional with LBS after many years
they just (the WAS) dont want to come home for the most part
they want to keep their freedom and keep LBS hanging somewhere in their lives
for me My XH wants his OW
he would only like to have afriendship with me
that is really a problem and it is heard for us the lBS have a R with WAS unless it may lead to reconciliation
one never knows
Your H was so distant and angry for so long as I remember now he is all over you??
who knows what he is thinking
maybe a little mystery may be good for your situation
why are nt you D
as I recall you were almost D
what happened?
peace

Hey Kiki,

Today is the best day you will ever have......YOU are the prize....