Thanks LG and Chuck. I am very happy with where I am compared to where I was. And my sole purpose in my questioning and searching for answers is to make her happy. If she has decided to be with me, I want her to be happy with that decision. And I am doing everything I can to make myself the best I can be outside of the bedroom, so naturally I want to be everything I can be inside the bedroom.
So, I do not know if I am looking for perfection, but just a quest to make her happy. Again, thanks guys for reading up on me and my journey, I truly feel that I am so much better off, eventhough I would not want to go through it again, obviously.
As far as lube I will look that up LG, but I just don't know how spontainous you can be when the warm up and getting the bottle and so forth takes time and stopping the process. She also likes to be on top sitting up but usually she has to stop because of my length starts to hurt her and has to lay down on top of me. I know there are guys out there saying who is this guy complaining about his big unit, but it is a slight issue with us. It also, is not the biggest in the world as she is only about 5'3" and 115 lbs, so that has something to do with it as girls way back in my past did not have any problems.
Just keep the lube in the nightstand. You can't just reach over and squirt some in your hands? Or, in her hands and let her apply? Seriously, buy the good stuff and just put it in the drawer. Don't get caught up in orchestrating a perfect session. There is a certain hotness in a man that handles the lube (and, in some cases, condom) in a matter-of-fact, "taking care of business" way.
How the heck can you perform with logistical worries in your head?
The length issue, I understand. I imagine she prefers being on top so that she can control how deep you penetrate. To keep it from getting boring, and to earn her trust, maybe you can practice other positions just a minute at a time (promise her it will only be a minute and keep your promise unless she wants you to keep going).
I just noticed that Babeland (my favorite sex store) no longer carries Slippery Stuff. I called, and learned that they reformulated and replaced it with their own brand: http://store.babeland.com/safe-sex-lubes/babelube. The lube has a thicker consistency so it doesn't pour all over the place, odorless, tasteless, stays wet a long time, free of parabens and other stuff that irritates. I trust these people. They know sex.
Your sentiment for coming here is touching. I'm so glad she stayed, and I'm so glad your marriage is in such a healthy place of growth.
There are a bunch of books about, um, blowing her away, but She Comes First is a winner. As long as things don't become routine, you'll be OK.
Some lubes come in a pump bottle, no unscrewing a cap & squeezing, but it'll be cold. I wonder if putting it on one of those little hot plates for mugs would help. Maybe it'd melt the bottle. oops Just putting the bottle in a bowl of hot water would work.
A long time ago I heard a guy say he knew someone who was "so long" that he wore "a donut" so he couldn't accidentally push in so far he'd hurt his wife. Maybe a sex toys catalog has something like that. Sounded logical at the time. On that surprising note, I'll wish you luch & goodnight. Jayce
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
The lube we found that we like is Liquid Silk. It has a natural feel to it and it doesn't get sticky. Mrs. Cinco flipped when she found out I got it a sex shop down the road. Ah well...
Just putting the bottle in a bowl of hot water would work.