My C told me that he has worked with 60 and 70 yr old children of D and they still cling to the desire to see their parents together, even when their parents have passed.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
I got my tats. I got my kids names - Julia, Jillian and Joseph. They think its so cool.
The kids make me strong. It's hard when the 5 yr old tells me that he wants us back together. I mean where does he come up with this, it blows my mind.
Because they know what is right. They have a sense of what is right. They just know that mommy and daddy are supposed to be together.
Not only do they know, its what they want. Its the security and foundation of their world. Any disruption of that feels unnatural.
If you ask me, God puts that in us. Otherwise, why would people not just mate and move on? Its a sense of morality we all have inside us. And kids have it to.
Kids are dumb. They know. If a parent who wanted to D really wanted to get insight on what is right, just ask the kids.
Thats cool about the tats. I'll bet the kids loved that. That is a really neat idea.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Had a great weekend with the kdis. Went to birthday parties and Monsters vs. Aliens. My mother in law is in town to watch the kids this week. She was very pleasant. I really like her, she has been very good to me.
I know she hasn't had it easy in her marriage. She doesn't agree with the D at all.
Today she heard my son tell her about our living arrangements, I'm sure that made her feel uncomfortable.
Me - 39 W - 39 D - 11 D - 8 S - 5 Served - 04/14/09 Temporary Court Orders - 04/27/09
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.
The W is out of town for a week. The MIL is in town to help with kids. I've been checking in on them since school let out.
Interesting to see if the W will call me this week. She called to tell me she spoke to the school nurse... Okay? But she just wanted to tell me, I said thank you. She's been like that for the past few weeks since I started going dark. She has been initiating all communication. Again, not sure if she has paid attention or trying to keep me at arms length.
I really like my MIL, she is great to me. She's not happy with the sitch and how W has been acting. I'm not going to talk about W to MIL. I'm sure she has enough to deal with as well.
But I can see that I'm going to have to set some boundaries with W now. I can see how she is starting to treat me as she did when we lived together. Telling me to pay this, pay that, make this appt, make that appt...woah woah woah, tap the brakes.
Again, I don't think she realizes this or not. We'll see when she comes back into town.
